SD10 turned 11 on the 16th the days before her b-day DH got all depressed and agitated because we bought her a card and a gift card and wrote a message in it and asked her to call when she gets it with our number like we always do because BM doesn't have a land line and she never has them return phone calls. He knew she wouldn't call so he's extra sensitive. His mother posted something on facebook and BM responded so DH responds and says "Better keep that pedaphile away from our kids." Way out of left field and rude uncalled for yes, but he doesn't trust her since hillbilly lives closer to BM than us so we just have to hope she won't lie again. His mother deleted it of course, so he messages her "Why do you let her make digs at me and even join in on the internet but delete my crap? Is it because siding with her makes you feel better about leaving us kids with drug addicted child abusers our whole lives?" so there were 2 days of back and forth that I left alone till she told him she thinks "Im a lot like her sweet and well meaning but not on top of it" So than I got into it, this woman never met me in person!! It got real ugly, she blocked me from facebook and than sent our private messages to random people on my friends list. So I messaged BM I was deleting anyone associated with DH nothing personal but that meant her to and she might want to know that mother in law is sending messages that have details of her personal life in it to random strangers. I unfriended her and than I wrote "DH's Pill popping drunk mother is sending everyone messages, sorry block her, report her, whatever. That really stirred a hornets nest. I don't care they are a bunch of ignorant hillbillies and I am sick of seeing their racist anti obama, picnic christianity posts anyway. I still feel like I made myself look bad, and obssessive but these two kids will never have a normal relationship with their father who pays support, calls, remembers every birthday and holiday, and does what he can and gets no reciprocation. Everyone is told he doesn't pay support, he's a drunk, he is irresponsable etcc...but the truth is he has supported me and them and I keep a dry household except on holidays or if we BBQ or something. I'm sorry if his ex wasn't woman enough to build her man up and all he wanted to do was drink around her, lol (I know he's an alcoholic and that's hard to live with, not worth it to some people) I care too much about my kids to let him spiral out of control, they are all speaking out of turn and making assumptions and it's pointless to talk to them when they are all hypocrits anyway. I feel bad for him but he doesn't seem to care, Im sick of BM and the SKIDS taking up residency in my head all the time when I know they couldn't give two shits about us.