O/T Is this normal kid stuff or a red flag
I have 4 and 5 year old girls. They play with another 5 year old girl all the time who lives across the street. My 4 year old and K were doing a "Play" so I was watching them and K was telling my 4 year old what to do. She wanted her to take off her clothes and be in the shower where she came up behind her and picked her up and was being "romantic" I intervened for lunch but didn't make a big deal out of it just told my kid to leave her clothes on. Also my BD 4 was saying "You're a sucka." to K a couple days ago and I told K, "oh she just means you're sweet like a lollipop" K said "No she means sucker like sucking weenies." uh.....I'm pretty sure BD4 doesn't even know what that means, why does this kid? I wonder if this kid is being sexually abused because she seems very knowledable or just watches a lot of mexican soap operas or something.
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Wow. It seems like these kids
Wow. It seems like these kids definitely know way more than they should. I might would think about limiting my kids exposure to them.
Do you ever chat with this
Do you ever chat with this kids parents? What are the family dynamic like at her house? I would bring it up. If you notice that she doesn't come over to play anymore you might want to place a call to CPS.
Another option is talking to the kid yourself. Next time you see something like the "shower play" ask her where she has seen that, or heard about sucking weenies. Those are big red flags and I am not sure what you should do but something isn't right.
Yeah I told my girls
Yeah I told my girls yesterday they aren't playing with her for awhile because I didn't like the things I heard of that kids mouth. I feel bad for the girl though she seems so lonely. And of course my DD5 can't have tact so she just answered the door when K knocked and said "My mom doesn't like you so you have to go home!" uhghghgh
^^^^^ ^^^^^^
^^^^^ :jawdrop: ^^^^^^
Her mom doesn't speak english
Her mom doesn't speak english and works like 3 different jobs. The kid goes to day care a lot and I know there is a 10 year old there which is where she might get this overly mature attitude from too. Her dad and I talk a lot he's been leaving for weeks at a time for work. She has an 11 year old brother who has been out of state all summer. The parents used to be super protective and weary about her playing with anybody and now it's gone to the other extreme where nobody seems to be looking after her. I did talk to the dad last year about the 3 girls (my 2 and K) having what my 4 year old called "panty time" where they went into the bathroom and showed each other their underwear. I thought it was weird but normal because they wanted to see who had Hello Kitty, or Princess etc. But I also wanted to make sure the brother wasn't having panty time or anything like that.
Honestly I would call DCF and
Honestly I would call DCF and voice your concerns. Once you report it (anonymously) you have done your part. If they investigate they do, if they don't think it's enough, then put the brakes on for a little bit and then just really supervise play time in the future. I just hate to think this little girl could be being hurt.
Aside from the sexual stuff I
Aside from the sexual stuff I also put the kabosh on their paydates because I heard my 4 year old say "These shorts make my legs look fat." She got that from this girl
my DD5 told me K told her that she's getting fatter and fatter everyday.
5 years old is WAYYYYYYY to young to start having body issues.
One time, we had a get
One time, we had a get together at our house. Our friends young kids were over and we had SD. Apparently, SD asked little boy 2yrs old, to pull down his pants and hump little girl 3yrs old. The girls told their parents but didn't tell me.
A few months later, we were all out at the beach. Our friends told me what happened. They said they didn't want SD around their girls because of X,Y,Z. I was so embarrassed and I had to tell DH. Needless to say, SD is now almost 13. Rumor has it that she is already giving blowjobs, she claims to be bi-sexual and has taken pics of herself in her panties, she is just a hot mess. I feel sorry for my DH, it must be tough.
NO NO NO...DD7 is 7 years
NO NO NO...DD7 is 7 years old. And I remember her being 4 and 5 years old like it was yesterday. She never said things like that. Something has obviously gone awry at home. :O
No reason a 5 year old should
No reason a 5 year old should know anything about sucking wieners. I would say something to the dad. Maybe phrase it that you are concerned and maybe she's being exposed to something at the daycare. Then I'd report it to child services.
It might be as simple as she accident my walked in on her parents one time.... But she might be being abused.