I don't know why this makes me happy
SD's 9 and 10 have gone to 7 different schools, never seen a dentist and haven't had consistant yearly check ups, They live close to us now and we immediatly hounded BM about SD9's speech problems, her pissing her self, not knowing how to wipe properly and that being most likely the cause of all her UTI's, and her distended tummy, now SD9 has intestinal blockages, needs to see a speech therapist and is not doing well as a 4th grader, she's not even doing well for a third grader. BM likes to blame "stupid doctors" and "stupid school system" How about blaming STUPID MOTHER that didn't leave them in a school long enough for anyone to pay attention to the poor kid. How 'bout having consistant pediatricians in their lives that are able to chart health issues? What a dummy and the sad thing is all I can think is "good, that's what you get!!" She gets on her high horse about how she works and I don't (she has to, the guy she had the kids calling daddy a month after her and DH split, left her high and dry) She claims she's going to teach her daughters "not to rely on a man". That's all fine and good, but I stay home with my kids because these are their formative years and I will not neglect their needs. When my BD was tested for her preschool placement she was 3 a couple weeks from her 4th birthday, she scored at 5 and 6 years old for everything, their success is more important to me then being an angry man hater. And SD10 who doesn't have as many health issues besides being really under weight and and has the worst sweet tooth I've ever seen in anyone (her mother is diabetic I would think she'd be concerned but nope)
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He filed paper work a couple
He filed paper work a couple weeks ago to regain joint legal to hold her accountable if we hear they haven't gone to a dentist, etc they lived out of state and now they live three hours away and he has had very little control. When He asked BM why sd9 wasn't where we thought she should be as far as readinng and communicating back when she was 7 it turned into a fight and she moved the kids out of state, then moved them back closer to us and now he's trying to get more control. My fear was that if he stated all the reasons he needs to have a say in their health care we'd end up with custody and the have been so alienated from him that it would be hell on everyone, but so far it's been civil and no drama. We have talked about guilt regarding their living conditions vs our kids, their lack of stability vs our kids. So he is trying to be more involved. But their original arrangement was basically they would move on with their lives and he would stay in contact with the kids while giving BM and Hillbilly BF their space, he didn't realize what a screw up she turned out to be. Her excuse is "It's hard when your single." That's all her doing.
If BM wasn't taking care of
If BM wasn't taking care of their health and educational needs,then dad should have tried to get full custody. Sounds like they are both bad parents.
No half the time we didn't
No half the time we didn't know where they were, we don't have a lot of money to fight a court system that favors mothers. He is a grat father and my two kids are proof having grown up with him in their lives.. It's not his fault their mother decided to chase dick all over the country and we have just enough money to support our family, pay child support, until I go back to work.
If the kids ever visited dad,
If the kids ever visited dad, he could have taken them to the doctor. There are free or low cost clinics in most counties.
They do visit us, we have had
They do visit us, we have had to take her in that's how I was able to tell BM the kid is not wiping correctly and getting UTI's, He filed paperwork through the courthouse, which was surprisingly helpful this month to to make hold her in contempt if she doesn't tell him everything, and have it in writing that she can't move them anymore. She hasn't responded.
Why didn't dad take care of
Why didn't dad take care of the children's needs, then?
He makes sure YOU stay home and take care of his "new" kids. What about the ones that already existed? If they're in as bad of shape as you say, well, then... sounds like daddy dearest is JUST as neglectful as mommy.
You should NOT feel happy that your husband's children are suffering neglect.
I agree sounds like the kids
I agree sounds like the kids are getting the raw end of the deal here. He needs to spend any money he has to get full custody...