We are never truly alone because she's lurking
Yesterday SO and I were in the kitchen cleaning up dinner dishes and I was telling him some of the stuff I had going on at work and some training I had coming up. I'm working on a big project that I am really proud of and put almost a years worth of work into and I wanted to be able to share it with him. Then in a lower tone I told him that I had looked online and found us a place to get away on a kid-free weekend to kind of celebrate my finishing the big project. Before I even finished the sentence here comes SD8 who had apparently been hiding in the pantry, yes I said in the pantry, listening and said where are WE going? I said I was talking to Dad privately and it's not polite to eaves drop. She said well you can't go on vacation without ME and stood their with her hands on her hips. SO told her that we were having an adult conversation and to go and play and entertain herself. I swear when she is there I can't even talk to him without her jumping out of the shadows wanting to know what I said or even sometimes getting physically in between us and her start talking about mindless bullshit in the baby talk voice. BM has her trained to give a full report of my house and everything that happens while she is with us upon her return. I've even caught her trying to read texts on my phone too, I fixed that with a passcode. So I'm sure when SO drops her off on Sunday at 4, by 4:15 he will get the flurry of texts about what kind of bastard wants a vacation without his child!
I went ahead and booked the weekend this morning. If BM or SD8 guilt him into not going I'm going to take one of my girlfriends and go anyways. I know all kids want to be nosey but SD8 takes it to a whole different level and sometimes it seems like I can't even have a moment of excitement about something that was important to me if she is around. She can have been in her bedroom supposed to be asleep for an hour and we will be in the living room talking and all the sudden she will yell out, I heard what you said. WTF!!!!!!!!!!!
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SD8 would jack up the word
SD8 would jack up the word Hedonism, I might as well just say nudist colony to make sure it gets back reported to BM properly LOL. I catch her watching me a lot and it's so creepy.
HAHAHAAH you know I might
HAHAHAAH you know I might better check on that! I do know she came home from camp and her panties were in a ziploc sandwich bag in her lunchbox. She didn't mention it until I opened the lunchbox to wipe it out and pack the next days lunch! SURPRISE! Pissy panties. The devil in me wanted to leave them in there along with her lunch today but I didn't. I just tossed them to SO and told him to handle it.
Pissy panties in a lunch
:jawdrop: Pissy panties in a lunch box?? There's gotta be a jingle for that!!
Maybe something to the melody of 'does my chewing gum lose it's flavor on the bedpost overnight?' Anyone?
HAHAHAH I should try and
HAHAHAH I should try and think of a little jingle for it. I refer to living with her as "Life with Pooh" because of the smearing shit on the walls.
Who knows? And why would she
Who knows? And why would she not mention that she was commando when I picked her up? LOL
Soon she'll be putting them
Soon she'll be putting them in her Coach bag!
Perfect!
The thought of being in a
The thought of being in a hotel room with SD8, SO, and my BD11 makes me cringe. If SD8 didn't go I'd be fine but being in one room for a "vacation" wouldn't fly! Hell to the no!
If BM or SD8 guilt him into
If BM or SD8 guilt him into not going
+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
If this happens....you have a much larger problem that SD.
Yes this is true! But I'm
Yes this is true! But I'm going regardless of what he does. I'm working really hard on disengaging and he knows it too.
I've brought that up to my SO
I've brought that up to my SO because she shares a bedroom with her 11 year old half brother who has "issues" to put it mildy at BM's house and BM's boyfriend is shady if you ask me and so are all his thug life brothers. He doesn't think she needs counseling or anything and I did report my concerns to CPS which was a big joke and waste of time. But if it came out that had happened it would explain so much of her behaviors, however even though the kids works my last nerve I hope like hell she's just a weirdo and nothing like that has happened to her.
This is what SD15 does all
This is what SD15 does all the time!! I swear she hovers above the ground she makes no noise the all of a sudden bam she's there asking questions about our conversation. Freaking annoying!!!!
SO and I go away together alone all the time despite her little hissy fits or guilt trips. It used to bother him but now he enjoys the time away and he looks forward to it. We both have stressful jobs so we need our breaks.
Yup. This is me, and what
Yup. This is me, and what I've been doing lately.
Hovering little stalker freakos...yuck!
I realized that when SD8 is
I realized that when SD8 is there 7 days off 7 days on we are not intimate. I constantly have to lock the bedroom door to keep her from coming in without knocking of course at all hours of the night for DAAAAAADDDDDDYYYYY to come lay with her because she can't sleep. Several times after the kids went to bed we would be intimate and she would be banging on the door for this or that ( mean you are 8 get yourself a glass of water you lazy brat) and it killed the moment for me so now I just don't do that when she is in the house.
In the mornings when SO hugs me and kisses me goodbye for the day, without fail she appears and gets in between us. Not to tell me bye or have a good day or F off, but to tell DAAAAADDDDDDYYYYY one more time how much she loves him. So this morning I didn't even wait for him to hug and kiss me, I went and kissed the dog on the head and told him to have a great day and left LOL. I wonder how long it took for SO and SD to notice I was gone and didn't wait for the beloved group hug I'm not really wanted at?
That Daaaadddddyyyy shit
That Daaaadddddyyyy shit makes my skin crawl. Hate it.
OMG mine too! She has her
OMG mine too! She has her normal voice, but then she turns on the whiny brat, baby talk voice and I can't stand it. If she speaks to me in that voice, I say I don't understand anything you are saying, speak to me normally. I ignore her until she talks regular but good old DAAAAADDDDDDDYYYY plays along with baby talk for some reason. GAG
My BD11 never knocks on the
My BD11 never knocks on the bedroom door for me either. It's always been that my bedroom is my sanctuary so unless a limb is missing do not knock on the door. Now if BD11 is sick and needs me, she will lightly knock on the door, let me know it's her, something is wrong and in a low voice as not to wake up the whole house because she has manners. I will go to her bedroom and deal with whatever is going on. SD8 bangs on the door like the house is on fire yelling out for DAAAADDDDDDDDYYYYY then when he answers the door, nothing will be wrong, she will say she needs water, couldn't sleep, come lay with me. It's attention seeking
>SO told her that we were
>SO told her that we were having an adult conversation and to go and play and entertain herself.<
I am soooooo jealous! DW will never, ever, EVER say that to SS because that will hurt his little fee fees. So when SS jumps out of the shadows to interrupt (and subsequently hijack) our conversations, DW will entertain him; even dumbing down the vocabulary so that SS can understand the conversation - because you see - "it is important for SS to feel incuded in our family".
:sick:
Drac0- Your idiot SS needs to
Drac0-
Your idiot SS needs to hear some big words to help smarten him up instead of her dumbing down her conversation. I overheard a conversation the other day I will share with you. I'm that "cool" mom that uses adult words to my BD11 and when she questions what it means I say, let's look it up! Then I have her explain to me what the word means and how she could use it in a sentence. Too cool I know hahaha. Anyways I have been so busy with work that I have been having to bring work home at night. I overheard SD8 ask BD11 why I was working at home in the evening so much right now. My BD11 said, "Mom is going over the end of the fiscal year figures to analyze and prepare the budget for the upcoming year". SD8-blank stare, crickets... BD11 says do you understand what I said, do you want me to explain it differently? SD8 says DADDDDDDDDYYYYYY I love you and skips off down the hallway.
Don't dumb it down for him, if his mom does whatever, but speak to him like you would speak to anyone else and if he doesn't know what it means he can look it up or just be a dumbass.
That is cool! I would do that
That is cool! I would do that but I am beginning to wonder if SS is a lost cause Accordn. The other day at supper SS said that World War II started because some Jews killed Hitler's Mom. I damn near choked on my meal. "Who the hell told you that!?" I asked. He says he wasn't sure. Damn it, I showed SS the video of "The Wave" last year which explained the entire concept of Facism quite beautifully. I thought SS understood but clearly he didn't. I did give SS a couple of books to read over the summer but I was careful to get him books that are suitable for a 12-year-old because SS's reading comprehension skills are 2 years behind.
I'm not Jewish and I think I
I'm not Jewish and I think I would have slapped the taste out of his mouth on that one. What a moron! I guess at this point you need to write this on a flash card and tell him to practice often, " would you like fries with that"?
LOL! Oh I would have LOVED to
LOL! Oh I would have LOVED to have slapped him.
But apparently it is illegal to slap children for being stupid.
Are you sure about that? My
Are you sure about that? My parents would slap me when I was a kid if something stupid or smartass flowed out of my mouth. I will slap my daughter if she is disrepectful to me too.
Before I had the restraining
Before I had the restraining order against BM and we did have a few conversations or emails, her lack of grammar and spelling was probably around a 5th level, and I'm not going to lie, I enjoyed talking above her level just to make her feel stupid because she is such a horrible person and waste of the air we need.
I'm saving this for the SO.
I'm saving this for the SO. Thank you. He needs this for their upcoming court crap. This is exactly what he needs. The BM in our case is a f'n LUNATIC and is harassing him via email/text daily. Has been for 5 years. It's ridiculous.
I like your suggestions very
I like your suggestions very much. She won't text me because I pressed charges against her and she legally can not contact me or come within a certain range near me. But she does blow his phone up when she gets mad. The court order doesn't say anything about phone calls, texts, etc... So that would work for him if he would find his balls and do it. I am going to print this out and show it to him and let him see how simple it could be to have that bitch stop her mess.
OMG..I had to do the same
OMG..I had to do the same thing!!!
It was a tough decision to
It was a tough decision to make because I knew I would have to go to court. I had to have Verizon to print my text records and then since BM denied everything the judge had me read the texts on the stand. The judge had to calm the courtroom down SEVERAL times because some of the crazy raunchy stuff BM said on the messages. She called me every name in the book, threatened to run me over with her car, threated to hurt my child, even brought up about my SO's private parts! It was crazy. When she got up on the stand it was so obvious she was lying and tried to say she had no idea who texted me that stuff FROM HER PHONE and that she had no problem with me BAHAHAHA. Dumb bitch. SO said she has always been a bully and for some reason no one stood up to her. Well I drew the line when she started bringing my kid into it. And so she is on probation, if she was to apply for a job (Hang on while I laugh) it will show up on a criminal background check, and their is a no contact order in place too.
Yep, and yep. I call this one
Yep, and yep. I call this one "Wylie Coyote". She's a bully and has narcissistic personality order, along with being straight up BATSHIT crazy and no one stands up to her. When finally called out or caught, she denies, cries, then all the crazy shit she does blows up in her face. I laugh and laugh and laugh. }:)
We call BM the cum dumpster.
We call BM the cum dumpster. It's pretty nasty but so is she
Hahahaha! Good one! We
Hahahaha! Good one! We wouldn't be able to use that, because that cow is miserable and alone, but I'm saving that one in case I ever need it!
We call her cum dumpster and
We call her cum dumpster and this boyfriend Thug Life, because he actually has "thug life" tattooed on his neck. Face Palm. She has 3 kids 3 different baby daddies and is on every social program that she can be to get assistance. She is the eternal victim and we all owe her a handout.
Thug Life...LOL!
Thug Life...LOL! Ohmygawd..gross. Know the type, too well. Poor thing, I feel bad for her stupid ass. Not!!
I sort of wish pyschobitch had more kids, so she could fuck all of them up equally instead of focusing on turning this little monster into a hateful spitting image of her nasty self.
BM is very mean ( in my
BM is very mean ( in my opinion)to SD8. The oldest is a boy 11, he was conceived while she was married to my SO, then SD8, and now their is a baby Thug Life. So when the boy was 8 or so it came out that he may not be SO's so a DNA test was done and he was not the father. The birth father was some crackhead that she had cheated with. BM then decided SO could not see this boy any longer. Ok so we get SD8 50/50. From the way things sound and I take it all with a grain of salt because she is 8 and has been known to lie, but the son is VERY handsome but lots of emotional problems and way under grade level, but BM puts beauty above brains. She acts like he could shit a golden egg. Then comes SD8, who let me be honest, is not a pretty child AT ALL. She is very smart but she is awkward and hyper and annoying as FUCK! And BM basically shows her less attention and love. Now baby Thug Life is in the picture (1-2 months old) and Thug Life lives there too so the baby is the big deal. Now at that house SD8 is no longer the baby, no longer the only little girl, and is getting pushed to the side. SD8 drives me up the wall pretty much 99% of the time but I know her life over there sucks and she is too young to get any changes. We have worked with the courts, we have worked with CPS, no help. BM is the daughter of the devil in my opinion and it's really sad the havoc she reeks on her children's lives.
"SD8, who let me be honest,
"SD8, who let me be honest, is not a pretty child AT ALL. She is very smart but she is awkward and hyper and annoying as FUCK!" We could be talking about the very same kid here, for real!
Yeah, it's really sad, when you get right down to it, ya know.
*shrug* Oh well.
SD6 is the same way. Always
SD6 is the same way. Always butting into adult convos & listening at doors. Drives me crazy. And she has supersonic hearing - even if we whisper & talk in code, she will shout from behind her closed bedroom door "Don't talk about my mom like that!"
DH & I were in the middle of a disagreement the other day & she came running out "I hate when you guys fight!" I was so done. I'm not proud of it but I got in her face & told her to butt out, I was talking to DH, not her & to stop being so nosy because it's rude. I was pretty harsh & made her cry, but no one else was ever going to say anything.