Counselor came last night for me, so, and sd. She will go to sd and her mom tonight as finally SD is bein forced to follow a parenting plan which keeps her with mom half the week. This counselor came to us from DFS. I also contacted the county mental health which immediately accepted SD as needin case mgmt and dad as needing parentifng skills and support. We meet with them tomorrow, So and me.

Last night was generic first meeting to discuss issues. After reveal of drugs, alcohol, violence, etc, counselor asked SD what her goal was and she said more time with mu dad without Sm. so we will see where that goes. I will need to talk to therapist privately to discuss what alone time has meant so far. Counselor seemed to sense there were deeper issues and asked sd for goals she had for herself. She then said her only goal was to get dad to herself. And nothing else. I hope when I follow up with counselor about what that has meant so far, she will address it in a healthy way.

SD will now hve two counselors and a drug counselor too and be dropping randomly for us. Mom discovered that SD had been using two years - suspiciously close to beginning puberty/sexual attractiveness perhaps. I won't let this I until the truth is revealed, especially after confronting dad re dating his daughter, Victoria's secret trips and rundowns behind closed doors in only towels and having him tell me any therapist would say this is normal father daughter relationship. We shall see.

Just wanted you all to know I have been hard at work. I also put boundaries in place regarding alone time, the way SD treats me and the next step I will take if inappropriate behavior continues - more DFS and cops. So far SO has been compliant. Interesting to note that SD is pouty and no longer speaking to So especially after the incident where she tried to get sad to "rescue" her from mom only to have us both appear and tell her her behavior (running away, disobedience, hitting mom) was unacceptable. We returned her TOGEThER to mom. It seems to make slight difference in mom who is glad to finally have some support I think. But the main difference is SO was compliant and SD is very very upset.

Any thoughts on what more I can/should do? All alone time is now limited to school drives - 20 min each way do nice opp for healthy talks. SD won't speak to dad On those though. She wants the old system - dates and them jointly excluding me and her mom - back. I need to figure out how to help counselor see the real issues here so alone time with dad can be healthy and positive not creepy and sexually charged dating situations.