Teen SD with ODD... Can anyone shed some light
I live with my SD who is 14 (technically I am not her step mom as I am only engaged to her Dad).
We have gone through 3 separate weeks in 1 month with her being in and out of a Crisis Center for such things as: Cutting, Suicidal Threats, Piercing, Defiant to School Principal.
She was supposed to goto Timberline Knolls for 30 days and the insurance fell through, so she is here now and I am miserable. I am so angry with this kid for everything she has put this family through, and while I sit in here and type she is sitting on the couch with Dad and the 2 other little siblings playing video games, laughing it up and having a good time.
I know I am on the bitchy side here, but personally I think this kid should be cleaning her room and seeing how the hell she is going to talk her way back into school tomorrow.
Nothing has changed since she has been gone, just now she wont look at me in the face.
I have such hateful feelings right now, not only directed to her but to my boyfriend as well.
When she was gone it was wonderful spending time with the other kids, and we were really starting to bind, now she is home and I feel like I am on the sidelines again.
Anyone out there know how to deal?
My bio son was in a crisis
My bio son was in a crisis center for out of control behavior and being disrespectful. He threatened to beat my ass after I took his door off the hinges in his room. I got the belt and tore his butt.....no way is any freaking kid gonna threaten me.
Then after I spanked him with the belt he left the house after I told him not too. I called the police and explained the situation and they found him roaming the neighborhood and upon my suggestion drove him in handcuffs to a crisis center. He was there for 8 days.
When he came home I sat down and told him the next step would be juvenile center. The gloves are off and he will behave or he won't live here.
He has been close to perfect teen since.....it was 5 months ago.
Lay down the law to SD....make it very clear what you not tolerate.
You have to be willing to back up what you tell her you will do. If you give empty threats don't waste your time.
Hang in there....it's very tough and especially when it's your skid.
Its hard when the SK who has
Its hard when the SK who has ODD was in a crisis center and I feel like I am loosing my mind to the point of checking myself in. DH thinks that I need to make an effort too, but this wasn't the plan for her to be home... Add a HUGE amount of stress at my job and issues with my own parents... The Welbutrin just doesn't cut it...
Thank you so much for all
Thank you so much for all your words of advice. I feel bad because I did act snotty to her. I was asked to join on the couch for a movie and when I got there sd14 was snuggled up next to my boyfriend. I told her that was my spot, kindly of course and made her move. In Hindsight I should have let it go, but I couldn't bear watching a movie with her laying all over my boyfriend it would have driven me mad. If one of the little ones were doing that I wouldn't have thought twice, but a 14 year old with boundary issues and 2 hours out of crisis center... uh no.
I am sure she is hating me now and me and my boyfriend have been really fighting the past 24 hours, and it is a lot my fault, no controlling my anger twards her (in conversation not to her). I need my boyfriend on my side and I know this is not the way to do it.
I am so happy I found this site, doesn't make me feel like I am so alone anymore.
Oh Jen, we have a similar
Oh Jen, we have a similar situation...but im married, SD14 is a major biotch like her mother, and i hate when they get together because she trash talks...we j=had a big fight some physical and some not...and now they are washing clothes together, im highly upset, he hasnt talked to me since, i threw my ring at him... he's wearing it on his pinky...i feel like shit, im so sad. and yes if it was the younger ones i wouldnt care, i feel like your me, before i got married...