No more Mrs nice lady
I've turned the corner on holding back and being nice about it. Last night I found a wet washcloth on SD14 bedroom floor. After mentioning it to DH and it being overlooked, I took matters into my own hands. The washcloth found it's way onto SD's bed creating a wet spot for her to sleep in.
Then I found a ponytail holder missing out of my drawer in the bathroom this morning which I found on her floor, took it back and hid it. I know it's just a ponytail holder but she didn't ask. That got me thinking. Why don't I do with her things what she does with mine? She "borrows" something of mine I'll "borrow" something of hers. That's only fair, right?
Oh now SD is trying to compete with me any time I'm around them. Saying she likes the things he does that I don't. Doing whatever she can to be the center of his attention when we're all together. I haven't been around them unless I have to so not sure why she feels the need to try so hard. When she's not here, which is a lot of the time, I can have as much of his attention I want cuz she doesn't call him unless she wants something.
I'm just amazed at all the drama from SD who says she hates drama. In my personal experience, anyone who says they hate drama is lying and loves to create drama.
Caught red handed! Had
Caught red handed!
Had another ponytail holder in my labeled drawer go missing. Asked SD if she knew where it was and of course I get they should don't know response. There is a crucial conversation in her future once I've calmed down and have my wits about me.
Took SD phone away for 24
Took SD phone away for 24 hours. Don't think the whole respect thing is or will sink in. On to plan B which is you take mine, I'll take yours. Basically if you won't respect me, I refuse to respect you.
SD13 lied to me about
SD13 lied to me about schoolwork in early May and then left a snarky note telling me to "have a nice day!" I took all of her stuff and planned on 2 or 3 weeks, but DH got her back on the internet in 5 days. July 4th weekend she turned on the shower and didn't get in, just let the water run for 30 minutes. I took her things TO WORK for 10 days including the keyboard.
Last week, on the first night DH was out of town, she lied about brushing her teeth to both of us, didn't change into pjamas or get into her room, and was downing a pint of Ben & Jerry's at 9:30pm at night. There wasn't even a toothbrush in her bathroom! I wanted to be in bed at 9pm but it took until 10:30pm! Her things are still in my office and will be brought home tomorrow.
The lying has been horrible. She's not getting MY iPad back, even if I have to haul it to work everyday, because she has burned THAT bridge. Her iPod Touch will be surrendered EVERY night at 9pm to DH and I, upon which time she will brush her teeth and get her ass into her room. School starts in a week and lights out will be at 9:15pm.
SD13 has behaved like such an ass this summer that she is going to have house rules for sure. The lying isn't even necessary. She usually isn't a mean kid, but then why lie? And I'm not helping to remind about homework or showers. She will fail miserably at both without someone to remind her. I need DH to show me how to change the WiFi password because the internet is turning this Skid into a POS.
Do what you gotta do. Play their game.....and WIN!
~ Moon