That is my plan!!! That is why I'm going to show DH how wonderful life is without her! When I'm not stressed for just a weekend or a week, he doesn't make the connection! In a recent conversation, he was asking why things between us couldn't be like they are when we are on vacation? He always thinks it is work! I can't tell him that it is because I can't stand to be around his dear princess, as it would start WWIII! But now that she is moving out, maybe, just maybe, he will finally make the connection! Maybe he will finally realize that the girl is a strain on our marriage, and that it is best if she not return to this house for more than a day at a time.

I've spent most of this week ticked off! First, SheSloth sneaks out of the house while spending the night with a friend to meet up with guys...getting picked up by the cops in the process! Then, after SheSloth is at BM's for Christmas (which I'm certain she got better gifts there...she got her color guard saber), BM calls to cuss out DH saying we came down on SheSloth too hard for the trouble she got into...that her baby feels worthless...and BM orders that SheSloth moves back with her! At that point, I'm ticked...happy the girl is out, but ticked that BM, who sent her to us because she was doing the same kind of thing there and expected us to fix her, is now yelling at DH for doing exactly what was expected of him to do! Ticked knowing that SheSloth littered the story with lies to make her the victim as she always does, and she yet again gets away with her crap!!

But now all that has passed...and as I walked through the grocery store today pointing out all the things I no longer have to buy because DH insists that she has to have something to eat (as SheSloth will not eat anything but crap), I felt a weight lifting from my shoulders! As I've sat today in peace, without DH yelling her name across the house just at to ask her what she is doing, without the awful singing, without the rummaging for junk food in the kitchen, I think to myself, "This is the new normal! This isn't going to only last until this evening." As I think this, it doesn't even matter that I feel like crap due to my juniper allergies, because I feel too much inner happiness!

I know it is probably wrong...I mean, DH is still feeling hurt by it all! I almost want to tell him what I told my kids when my ex decided to no longer be a dad...I know it hurts, but in the end it is for the better...sometimes you just have to let toxic people leave your life so you can grieve and move on, rather that go through new pain due to them disappointing you daily!

Don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya!!

I know she thinks she is hurting us...but in the end, DH will see this is for the best! I'm making that a priority, so that door stays closed for good! He only has to love his daughter...he doesn't have to like her as a person!! As he even told her with the yearbook think...anyone else lie to him like she has, and he would not associate himself with them any longer...the one thing he despises more than anything is lying! Because she is his daughter, he keeps giving her chances to be a better person!

But at some point, even family/blood can burn a bridge beyond repair, and this latest stunt I think has nearly done that!

Trust me...I'm already feeling that freedom! Everyone around me is upset about the issue, and I'm doing my best to hide the glee I'm feeling inside. I think I feel the worst for my MIL. The last time she tried to call SheSloth, the girl told her that she hated her and never wanted to talk to her again! Seriously!!! My MIL didn't say anything to SheSloth other than she was disappointed and felt embarrassed by what SheSloth did...because those were her friends. She didn't belittle SheSloth at all! It is just showing SheSloth's true character! DH continues to say that he thinks it is BM orchestrating most of this, but I know better. This is ALL SheSloth playing her manipulation games. She got into trouble, the hammer came down hard, and she ran away because she couldn't deal with the consequences of her actions! When she gets in trouble over there, she will try to come back here...but that door is closed, and I'm making sure it stays that way!

When DH heads out to work tomorrow, I'm going to blast some music, and clean the hell out of this house! I haven't kept it as clean as I like because I knew it was useless with SheSloth around. Take the time to clean, she will destroy it within a day! I'm sure it will be a while before she actually comes for a visit. I can see her coming up with all kinds of excuses to not come over for at least a couple of months, especially if she is successful in making color guard at the new school (apparently they have a JV and a Varsity squad...of course, if SheSloth isn't instantly put on the varsity squad, she will probably have a fit). Winter guard is starting up all around, so she should be nice and busy with competitions...too busy to even think about coming here.

I'm thinking maybe we should do something for New Year's Eve. I was looking online, and DH's main client is having a New Year's Eve bash. I'm thinking maybe suggesting that we get dressed up and hit it up! BS20 already has NYE plans with his friends, and since we don't have to worry about SheSloth. Make it our first outing to celebrate being empty nesters...but not actually say that. I figure, maybe if I can get DH to go out and stuff more often like that, when BM tries to dump SheSloth on us again, he will realize what he has to give up...and for what? To be treated like total crap? Hmmm...a happy life with the wife, or a miserable life with a heartless, ungrateful brat! Don't get me wrong...I'm not saying he has to chose me over her...just that he has every right to start thinking about himself. SheSloth turns 18 in just over 2 years...and from what I've already seen of her, the girl will hardly ever talk to him after that unless she needs something. On the other hand, he has a potential lifetime with me...someone who accepts him for him...not for what he can do for me. Before all of this, I was seriously doubting if I could stay married to this man. I love him dearly, and when SheSloth is not around, things are great! It is really hard when SheSloth is around, because, even when the girl doesn't deserve it, he tends to put her before my happiness 100% of the time. Sad thing is, I don't think he really means to...but it is that guilty dad thing that everyone here talks about. When he kisses her ass, I lose respect. It is like his balls vanish when she is around! When she isn't around, they magically reappear. I can't tell him this, because he will always defend her to the ends of the earth! Just a couple of weeks ago...we had a long talk. DH asked me why I was unhappy all of the time. Of course I couldn't tell him, because I knew it would start WWIII. "I'm unhappy because I can't stand SheSloth, and I hate how you are always kissing her ass!" Yeah, not really any good way of saying that! DH did note in that conversation that he noticed that when we are on vacation, we work great...so why can't we be that way all the time? He went on to say that he thought it had to do with work and all, when the whole time I'm thinking in my head "because when we are on vacation, we are a billion miles away from SheSloth!" I'm hoping he will see now that it isn't work...that it is the everyday tension that SheSloth was causing in this house! LOL...part of me is actually okay with the fact that I've been sick the last few days, cause it has helped me tone down my excitement. I mean...I don't want to seem overly excited right away. But, I am going to make the suggestion that we go out for NYE, and start making suggestions that we start doing this or that together. When he asks why we didn't do these things before, I will just kindly tell him that we were a bit too tied down. Maybe he will get what I'm saying.

Oh...I'm sure there will still be stories. Whenever BM calls and screams about the crap SheSloth is doing, I'll be sure to report. }:)

DH surely wouldn't let that happen! He will throw in my face that I keep BS20's room for him when he comes home for school breaks. Granted, that is totally different! This is still his permanent residence...what is on his driver's license, where he gets mail, etc. SheSloth flat out doesn't reside here any longer. But, you choose your battles, and her room is the smallest bedroom anyway.

There isn't a trace of SheSloth outside of that room any longer!!! My house is nice and clean, and smells good! The hall bathroom is totally disinfected...it was gross in there!!! Saved that for last so I could immediately take a shower when done! I can again have guests, and when they need to use the bathroom, I no longer have to send them to my master bath out of fear of what they may catch in the guest bath! I literally cleaned all day! I even took all of her stupid drawings off the fridge that have been up there forever! DH hasn't even noticed!

Started DH thinking about NYE plans. Told him I don't want to stay home...we should go out and do something fun...like adults! I peeked at SheSloth's social media today, just so I could get a good laugh! She is still talking a lot of crap about it all. She is also living the life now that she doesn't have to live by DH's rules! Looks like she has been staying over at a friend's house. Must be an older friend, or more parents who let their kid do whatever they want! Last night, SheSloth went to a dance hall and then they went to a tattoo shop so her friend could get her belly button and tounge pierced...SheSloth apparently got even bigger gauges. These are things DH would have never let her do! Yup, she will be preggers by the end of 2015 at this rate!

Of course, DH still thinks this is all BM, and that SheSloth was not at all trying to move out!! He has called her like every day trying to see her...at least get her to get her stuff. SheSloth has this plan and that plan. He thinks BM is making them! I have half a mind to show him her Instagram so he can see the truth!

Because right now, it is the only tool DH has to keep BM from demanding more cash out of him. She doesn't think that the court ordered support is enough to cover what Her High B***hness wants, and is trying to double the support on DH (by bullying him, of course...I have to wonder if she would ever go back to court, as she has never done so in the entire time since the divorce over 12 years ago). She starts in that the money isn't enough, DH brings up that he can gladly cut off her phone line and they can pay for it, etc. This shuts BM up for a while, until a few months later when she has to be reminded again. Because of the plan we are on, it is way cheaper for us to maintain the line than it is to have to pay the equivalent cash to BM, if that makes sense (I get a heafty discount on our phone plan because of who my employer is, but BM doesn't know this).