I want to scream.
I was really sick since Thursday night....praying to porcelain god sick. Now, I hurt from the rib cage down.
Grandma is coming....the house needs to be cleaned.
SS(16) is destinking that room of his....he had the door open this morning & I thought I was going to hurl again.
OMG....it would be easier to do it myself. If I hear "what do I with this" once more time I am going to scream!! The kid took all his deodorant and foot spray and put in way in the back under the bathroom sink. He said it would be easy to get to....he knocked every over and out putting it there & left everything on the floor. I said what about the stuff on the floor...he said it ain't mine I don't have to pick it up. ARGH.
Emptying the garbage can was an freaking ordeal....he spilled garabge all over the house and all over the backyard.
DH is doing yard work...SS is coming out every few mins and asking "where's dad?" and he is acting all freaked out. I keep on telling China, Ne York, the moon.....seriously I can't take it.
I want to choke the kid....he has NEVER been this bad. I don't know if is playing a game because he in being force to de-stink his room or this is actual behavior.
Now I am feeling really guilty because the dr rated him so high on the Asperger's scale. How can I be so cruel after all the kid has a disabilty? There is no way in hell I can deal with for the rest of my life.
I don't think your being
I don't think your being cruel. Your upset, your sick, it's ok to get mad. Even if SS has Asperger's no matter how high can be functioning, it may take him longer than someone without a handicap to get a task done and get it done correctly, so you'll have to be patient and so will DH. But IMO you guys shouldn't jump in to do the work so it gets done correctly and quickly, have SS do it and if it needs a little extra work, work with him to show how it should be done. Also light a bunch of smell good candles in the house and a bottle of febreeze, to febreeze his room and the doorframe so the rest of the house will smell fresh. I would tell SS yes, the stuff under the sink is not yours but when you put your stuff away you knocked stuff out, can you please go put it away neatly. Thankyou.
I hope you feel better soon!!! Good luck with SS. Have you guys looked into school/work programs for him?
Thanks for saying that. In
Thanks for saying that. In the past 2 weeks he has used an entire bottled of Febreeze...the room stil stinks. I don't know what it is.
Right now, he has been to a therapist for 6-8 months and we just went to consult with the dr. SS goes in 2 weeks for the eval. The therapist will be working with the dr (she works with this dr all the time) on his treatment. The dr has already mentioned some programs.....but he said when you out these kids together in a group there is always trouble because they can't get along with each other because they think the other guy is weird. I'm hoping o ge thim involved in some of the activity groups....I am sick of doing every thing with him. The therapist has groups...I will force that....I know he is confortable there. Then in Jan he is starting a lifeskills program...how to answer/make phone call, fill out apps, interviewing and light cooking. I am really not counting on the school system, years ago our atty requested an eval by the school and we were told there are no funds. WIth the housing market the way it is, this school system is really suffering so I doubt it. At this, I would rather just go private and have the insurance cover it.
You two got me thinking about
You two got me thinking about my nephew who has never been officially diagnosed with anything other than aprexia and ADHD to explain his symptoms. I went to Wikipedia and looked up some information regarding this syndrome and sent it to my mom. They also thought my other nephew had Autism until he was 2 and from the ages of 2-3, he made a dramatic turn around.
The therapist told me that
The therapist told me that aspie parents have a harder time.....I believe it. BM has no clue....we are waiting to get the offical eval done and then will are going to figure out what we are doing. We don't want to get her involved....first of all she hasen't seen the kid since August and then we have things under control. It is in the decree that there has to be parental approval and agreement for medical/mental/dental treatments. Which she she pay nor does she ever take the kid....so why should she be involved? Righrt after I moved in here, I talked DH into taking the kid to a shrink...he went once. DH told BM she freaked out and didn't allow him to go again.
I agree with you that it is easier to deal with a child that is low functioning. every parent wants to do the best they can but there comes a time when 24 hour in needed and a home is the best route. They are still in the "home" environment but they are getting the professional care they need. Like you said, there will be the day he is too big for her to take care of. This sounds harsh but when they child is low functioning the full awareness just isn't there. I think the kids that are lowing functioning have an easier time with it than the high functioning kids..
DH took him to the movie..every week he takes him because he "has to keep up with his friends" and see the newest movies....every week I say "why doesn't he just go to the movies with his friends?"
There is probably something
There is probably something rotting in his room. Leftover food or something. It might be necessary to remove everything from his room and don't forget the closet.