911!
I confiscated my SD11 phone. I saw multiple texts that stated that she is miserable and will kill herself. One that states if she doesn't find a boyfriend that loves her, she will kill herself. DH doesn't think this is a problem. I told him if he allows her to go to BM's house until she gets help , I'm leaving for good. He said "every teenager does this". In the meantime, BM says all kinds of crap in texts including that I don't get her anything she cares about (when Ss11 said she asked me for the newest iPhone). DH is way out of the loop and says he will address things with SS11??? Really? What about taking custody and calling CPS?! I'm sorry, but I knew all along this wasa troubled child, and now that I have proof, he wants me to keep quiet??? When DH asked her about all this, she laughed and said she is joking. OMG!
At 11, that is something to
At 11, that is something to worry about. An 11 year old shouldn't be thinking of suicide yet alone a boyfriend. I would take her in with the texts to get evaluated. Not sure where you live but in the states you can bring them to a hospital and they will take care of this for you. I would. Talking suicide that young is something to worry about. Save the phone and the texts so she cant deny it. If you cant due to not being the parent you can call the police and they will take care of it and give her an emergency detention. Just a thought. Just express you are very concerned.
Her dad threatened me if I
Her dad threatened me if I took action. I need to get out. I knew something was wrong when I joined this site, I didn't know How wrong, now I have proof. I am disgusted that he won't take action and blames me. SD even said in her texts that she gets blamed for what my bios do- I Never blamed her or disciplined her, I'm afraid she will later lie about them and get them in trouble. She claimed DH molested her when everyone knew that it was someone at the old trailer park, DH would never hurt anyone, less his own child! The mother is just vile- now I saw her texts and she would take joy in hurting any it all of us. The only solution is for DH to take full custody but he is a loser, and now I KNOW it. Just gross.
Her dad threatened me if I
Her dad threatened me if I took action. I need to get out. I knew something was wrong when I joined this site, I didn't know How wrong, now I have proof. I am disgusted that he won't take action and blames me. SD even said in her texts that she gets blamed for what my bios do- I Never blamed her or disciplined her, I'm afraid she will later lie about them and get them in trouble. She claimed DH molested her when everyone knew that it was someone at the old trailer park, DH would never hurt anyone, less his own child! The mother is just vile- now I saw her texts and she would take joy in hurting any it all of us. The only solution is for DH to take full custody but he is a loser, and now I KNOW it. Just gross.
What I don't get is why he
What I don't get is why he wont help his daughter. That is awfully strange to me. Did the person who molested her get in trouble or charged with anything? Not saying DH did it but why would she say that, maybe she needs to be evaluated. Psychiatrist are able to tell when a kid is lying about something so are authorities. That is what their job is to decipher the truth. She needs help. I don't know what she says about your bios that could get them in trouble if they haven't done anything wrong they wont get into trouble. What would suck is if she did kill herself and then everyone has to live with the whole well if we would have gotten her help then she would still be alive. I don't know, I wouldn't sit on it. I would get her help if anything it would call her bluff if she wasn't serious. I know this because when I was a young bratty teenager and I wasn't getting my way I told my Dad if he didn't let me see my boyfriend I was going to kill myself (now I wasn't serious but I wanted him to think that) he called authorities and they drug me to the hospital...guess where I stayed for a week...well that taught me to mind my parents and never say such things to try and get attention. I was so mad at my Dad but as I am older now I realize my Dad cared for me and my point is that DH needs to care for his daughter.
Sometimes I think the anxiety I have today is payback for that little incident I did when I was younger and full of life and happy all the time.
Idk why he is so reckless
Idk why he is so reckless with his kids. We have proof in writing! BM and BF do drugs, it's a no brainer!
She described how she would
She described how she would do it- hang herself. My bios are little, so I'm more afraid for them. They don't need this. I am livid that I'm Being laughed at over this. DH said he did this when he was young, but that's no excuse, especially when kids are allowed free reign nowadays, with no adult supervision. She called me and her mother's BF a "bitch", the mother fuels her anger, like she takes pleasure in all this. I saw everything in writing. I will not live like this, she is a very ill child. I have no respect for DH at this point and a man like this cannot be a role model to my bios!
The BM told everyone that if
The BM told everyone that if they dared ask about the molestation, she would cut them off from the kids, MIL told me all this on the hush. She said rumor was it was a neighbor from their old trailer park, so they moved (after SD 5 at the time was seen at his house alone and even walking along the freeway by herself)... She had UTIs and bed wetting for years after with no medical care.
If it did happen..that poor
If it did happen..that poor kid should have gotten help a long time ago. At 5 they will still remember it. She needs help. I like what the other poster is saying on here...you need to do it! Dh is horrible for laughing at this.
I started thinking Crew
I started thinking Crew yesterday. Something just seems off with these posts.
yeah these two posts
yeah these two posts especially.
My husband is a good man, but
My husband is a good man, but a fair to poor father. Why do those things need to be one and the same? And I just saw the phone last night. When I told him about the suicidal thoughts, he said he'll talk to her- she laughed like a hyena and said she's joking. Well, the texts were long, detailed and painful, too pain-filled to be fake. There was other stuff too, like lies about being punished for what the other sibs do- she is never home, how can she be punished??? Well, I am taking the phone to my therapist tomorrow and see what she thinks. In the meantime, failure to protect his daughter kinda changes my view of my DH. Also, all this effort and money spent on my skids is taking away from my bios who do not deserve all this. Sad thing, I know that once I move out, she'll call me trying to get saved from this mess... I am not Jesus, I gotta look out for my sanity so I can raise my own kids, and for their sanity once her dysfunction starts affecting them (one asked yesterday if we can leave, they feel bullied).
Update: I guess I must have
Update: I guess I must have scared everyone straight, DH is having long talks with the skids right now, told me he wants to do everything possible to be a better father and doesn't want to lose this marriage. Thank you all for your wisdom. I don't blame the doubters, things spun pretty quickly yesterday. Her BM said in one text that I "never get her what she wants" when SD said I won't get her the newest iPhone, well, I might not get her what she Wants, but I get her what she Needs- a better father and the positive attention she needs and not the negative attention she has been getting.