I'm not ready to condemn the whole generation - I have a 25 year-old niece who is very kind and always has been, especially to my 85-year-old mother.  And I've hired lots of 20-30 something young adults who are hard-working, responsible and independent, no entitlement at all.

I do think entitlement is on the rise, though, and the parents of this generation (our generation) have created a lot of it in their kids. Obviously, these ILs are not to blame for that in their DIL, but I bet her own parents can take on some of it.

my stepkids are those people that will stand you up with no phone call.  Over and over and over again. 

I notice this on reddit a lot. A lot of 19 - 35 year olds on that site, and no matter how badly or selfishly a person behaves, they can count on lots of sychophantic support.

 I recently unfriended a woman who joined one of my hobby groups. She's in her late twenties, utterly entitled, and very self involved. She holds very strong opinions on a variety of subjects despite having zero direct experience in these areas, and manages to make everything about herself. When a rookie female police officer was murdered, this woman complained on fb about the awful traffic caused by the funeral procession and stated that a cop dying shouldn't be a big deal; and on the anniversary of 9-11, she highjacked a post I'd made to bang on about how awful her memories of it are because she was a CHILD and WORRIED that her Arab father would be attacked or taken away and it was sooo TRAUMATIC for her. Seriously? All roads lead to her and her fee fees, and she's never, ever wrong.

I'm in the "snowflake generation," and I completely agree with you.  It was terribly rude and inconsiderate of Snowflake mom to cancel on her in-laws at the last minute.  I'm shocked that all of her peers agreed with her; my friends don't behave that way or condone that kind of behavior.  

The 'snowflake' was rude and thoughtless, no two ways about it. Obviously it's not the entire generation but I agree that there are a lot of entitled and self-centred people within that age group. But this is what comes from having rights but no real responsibilities , as well as being given everything they ever wanted.

I worked with a  colleague, aged 27, whose boyfriend proposed to her. She was insistent that they get married in a particular place and the wedding had to be done in a certain way. The cost was going to be £25,000(!) and because they couldn't afford it, they had to wait 3 years and save. She saw herself as hard done by because as a result, they couldn't afford any holidays in the meantime. Now the year before, they'd bought themsellves a 4 bedroom house and everything in it was brand new , which was a bit ridiculous as there's only 2 of them. She'd just had a new car, which was a great big  expensive 4x4 and again unnecessary. She started making snide comments to others in the office when they went on holidays; she really couldn't see that because of the buying choices they'd made, something had to give. Most of these coworkers were considerably older than her but she felt that she should be able to 'have it all' at 27. She grew up having everything she wanted and her parents  were still paying for her holidays well into adulthood. It really was quite an amazing sense of entitlement.

understandable but often you have self centred all about me people who confirm and promise they’re available for said visit then don’t turn up or have others relay to you they can’t go.

ultimately they knew they couldn’t go and shouldn’t have confirmed But when you aren’t considerate of others you don’t ever give a shit.

for example, a few months ago, hubby was missi g me and our 2 toddlers because i am flying back and forth between my and hubby’s country to finish my degree as i can’t do it in hubbys country, our home has no internet and we are in a blsckspot. Skids (especially sd23.5 & 14.5) knew i was overseas and hubby suggested during long weekend he wanted to visit his dad and family in his hometown and if sd’s wanted to come. They jumped for joy “yes we wanna go!!” So hubbys like great i can go spend long weekend with my kids from exwife. 

The reality is sd23.5 still needed to go back to mummy for permission(yup grown ass woman still asks mummy for permission to see daddy), exwife knows i am in australia and refused to attend any meets with skid demons like her friggin puppet so she is on mission inflict maximum pain to hubby and said no, sd’s need to spend it with stepdad because her own family hate her.

seriously 2 days before sd23.5 calls her brother (ss21.5) to say mummy won’t let us go spend long weekend with dad. She didn’t call hubby. Ss straight away calls hubby to let him know. Hubby is now pissed because if he knew all his kids with ex would not be available, he would have been able to buy a ticket and spend time with us because he missed us heeps. Now tickets were so inflated because hubby couldn’t get it on sale or cheaper and it was just a waste of money to visit then

i told hubby how did you not see this coming?? Every visit sd’s have last minute changes and hubby agrees to it, further emphasizing i’m the centre of the universe and everything revolves around me mentality. 

I told him it was very clear he could plan any vacations based on his eldest 3 kids involvement nor should our plans revolve around them as they are not reliable amd have never stuck with the original plan and all they do is this manipulative crap treating us like crap laughing at us jumping like a bunch of idiots for them.

so now hubby should be able to see if he has a choice between spending time with us when available overseas vs skids who never are available and cancel all the time then him choosing his elder 3 kids at the expense of spending time with us only to complain that skids cancelled on him again is his fault for hoping they’d changed.

if you know there is a chance you can’t go then don’t confirm. Just say check with me closer to the date as life is hectic right now

You can't fix stupid and to try is a waste of effort.  Of course not all of them are a lost cause. There are many who are diligent, hard working, caring, and giving.  But... the ones who are not are not worth the piss it would take to put out the flames if they were on fire.  No use trying with those.

The good news is that the write off examples provide so much entertainment value. So, enjoy the amusement of their idiotic trials and tribulations and focus on the ones who are worth a shit.  Eventually the rest of society will tire or their crap and not slow down on the commute to work and just run them over as they attempt to protest their butt hurt cause of the moment. 

I wonder if bug removing window cleaner works on SnowFlakes stuck to ones bumper and windshield?  since there is little difference between a bug and these wastes of skin.          Hmmmmm?

Sounds like SD23, the mini BioHo. Very sad and disheartening.

I have issues with my skids, but entitlement isn't one of them. And my own kids are hard working and responsible, as are their spouses. But I do know the kind of entitlement to which you refer.

One whiner in a hobby group of mine was complaining about not being able to communicate with her parents, and how does she get them to understand her, blah blah blah. Her parents were encouraging her to finish school, save for retirement, really awful things. She acted as if she were the first generation to have a divide with her parents. (Ask any baby boomer about that -- but they're sick of us boomers.) I offered a few suggestions, gave her a different perspective. She wasn't having it and then she booted me from being a page administrator without telling me. Well, that shows ME I guess.

I'm hoping those of the entitled ilk are so ill prepared to lead in the workforce and in the country that the hardworking and responsible of this group trample right over and past them.

For some, I blame the parents who have never allowed their pwecious little children to experience adversity, and who have always blazed the trail and done the heavy lifting for them. THAT IS NOT LOVE. That is control and selfishness. For others, like the young lady I mentioned, I think they just get caught up in the self-admiration that is so rampant. I dunno.

Well I am 30 and therefore in the group you're talking about. Just thinking about the people I interact with my age on a regular basis and the people I graduated with, I do think that behavior is common, but not the majority. But the ones that act like that stand out more so it seems like there are more of them since you dont really notice or think about the ones acting normal. 

I do also agree with the above that the boomers and gen x parenting style caused alot of the issue. My mom's mom and MIL and both boomers and have alot of the "disney dad" type behaviors that created the skid problems we see on here all the time. They each had daughters that were treated like children still in their 30s. 

I would also agree that the situation above is rude. Really the only excuse for that is a kid that started puking or got hurt or some other unlikely emergency.

In another post I mentioned a 1-for-1 as in 1 POS skid for 1 Awesome Skid. For all the ones we complain about, there are the ones that work hard, study hard and have wonderful personalities.

But generationally I hope its more. I am afraid it might not be.

As my own personal experience, not step related:

My DH is the youngest of 13, now 10 remaining children. He is a great uncle many times over. There are many marriages and a few divorces and 1 or two mia parents.

Ive noticed that his brothers and sisters are hardworking, successful in their careers and own their own homes. AT each family gathering they are cooking and cleaning and managing all activities. Basically doing it all.

Their children on the other hand, bring the babies and kids, plop on the couches and chairs, eat after food blessed, plop their plates in the garbage and hang out, do shots drink, eat some more and then leave. They dont contribute at all and no one ever offers to help.

And there are little cliques within these factions too, and they exclude the others.

Munchkin SD13 even noticed that she was being excluded from this "middle family layer". Shes in the younger grandchildren layer. Its the older grandchildren - some arent working, not going to any college, some are married and some are not.

Its when you do everything for people, and dont expect anything from them.

They will get trampled by those that are hardworking and who will do what it takes to be successful.

MIL is petty AF and she is 65.  I find that a lot of boomers have entitlement issues and want to dictate how others live.

Everyone thinks the younger generations are crap. The younger generations think the older generations are responsible for all their problems.

Who cares? We are supposed to make best of what we have been dealt.  One of the nicest hardest working people I ever met was young enough to be my daughter. And I sure have met some crap people older than me. I think different generations have different attitudes but it's not enough to get to the good vs bad judgments.

Many people proudly boast, "I'm not prejudiced! I love everyone." False. Many think "being prejudiced" is just with regard to skin color. While I am not prejudiced against people of ANY color, I realize we all have specific biases in one area or another. For me particularly, things like generational welfare make no sense to me. Drug addiction makes no sense to me. Spousal abuse also makes no sense to me. I don't know if I would define these as prejudices, but I lean in that direction on these topics and issues. At the heart of prejudice is "not being able to understand" that issue or thing.

So when I see someone is rude, or inconsiderate, I'm mindful that it is not age specific.

What I find interesting is little children have NO FILTERS. At some point, most of us develop a filter, which is clearly defined by "social norms." Some people never do. I say this because some people are rude or inconsiderate by lying to "appear" nice, while sharpening the blade for the knife they're going to carefully position in your back. Those are the ones who are terribly frightening.

There are people of all ages who are "straight up" and do not mince words, but because they are, many tend to dub them as "bitches" or "assholes" but I would far rather be around, or deal with these kinds of people than the "closet bitches/assholes." At least you know what you're dealing with.

Is rudeness and inconsideration on the rise? I believe it is, but I don't believe it's any one generation who fall prey to it. I largely believe the instant alerts on issues, events and behaviors on phones have desensitized many and given them the attitude of "everyone does it" so it must be ok. Similarly, very few people send out RSVP's when asked to, or thank you notes. On the whole, society is slipping backward. Common courtesy and decency seem to be on the decline.

Every generation has their jerks and people who perpetuate appalling behaviors and attitudes. I know these are extreme examples, given the scenario, butyou get it. (Judas, Julius Ceasar, Hitler, Stalin)

So to sum it up, yes, there is rudeness and inconsideration all around us, but I've found that if I keep my same attitude, and try to think from the other person's perspective, I usually come out better. It is not always easy, obviously I would not be here if I had mastered it,but we are a work in progress, not a finished product.

On the flipside, when there are patterns in behavior that have clearly been established, and it's not a one time thing, then it's time to carefully evaluate the specific situation and move forward from there.