Gifts: It's the "thought" that counts! :-)
I have to share this and hope it provokes a few laughs out there - I sure laughed at it!
SD (mid-twenties) is a very self-centered person. She recently told me about the Christmas gifts she had gotten for her roomies. One of them sometimes borrows SD's coffee mug in a pinch, and SD said she has had "words" with her about not using it. So she got that roomie a coffee mug.
The other roomie sometimes overdoes her toast, and SD hates the way the house smells from it and has had "words" with that roomie about it, too. So she said she got that roomie her own toaster with a feature to prevent toast from being overdone!
On the one hand, they certainly are "thoughtful" gifts. But when I pondered more about it, it seems like SD's "thoughtfulness" is really a passive aggressive message to the roomies to keep their mitts off her stuff, and don't annoy her.
Then it dawned on me, and this is where I got the laugh:
SD usually gives me a scarf as a gift.
Maybe she is hoping I will hang myself with it!?? 
I don't think she thought
I don't think she thought about it at all; a scarf is such an easy choice. She put more thought (although selfishly) into her roommates gifts than she did for yours.
Actually, she's given me
Actually, she's given me several scarves! In both summer and winter weights. So I guess she's being generous by giving me MANY options for when I want to hang myself!
hahaha!
hahaha!
That is so funny, I needed a
That is so funny, I needed a laugh. It is also very passive aggressive. Giving gifts that will make her life more comfortable. The scarf is very close to the mouth, maybe she does not want you to talk to her.
I thought it was funny, too.
I thought it was funny, too. When I give a gift, I try to think what the RECIPIENT would like - not what I want to, as you say, make MY life better! And yes, you have a point ... perhaps she expects me to use the scarves as gags instead of a hanging implement!
Say, maybe we are all on to something! A new business: call them, "Stepmom Scarves: Perfect gift for the stepmom you hate - gag her, drag her and bring her down!"
2tired4drama you are on to
2tired4drama you are on to something and you are also very funny. I just goggled stepmom gifts and there are some very positive and affirming stepmom gifts. I think I will get one an wrap it up for xmas and give it to myself. Or maybe I will just put ss name on the gift tag, power of intention.
One time I gave my SD a pin.
One time I gave my SD a pin. Now you brought it up, I have all sorts of ideas about what I could have been sub-consciously thinking. Does voodoo doll wring a bell?!!! LOL LOL
Last xmas I got my ss a
Last xmas I got my ss a t-shirt that turned out to be a size too small. Maybe I still see him as child sized.
Sounds like a Freudian slip
Sounds like a Freudian slip of the gift. lol. I went out of my way last year to find things for the stepbrats and got NOTHING.. so I guess that makes me invisible. lol. One got their father a family picture montage that was sent at the end of February and the rest gave nothing at all, just like Father's Day and his birthday. I put my foot down this year and said I am not helping or getting them anything, since last year I put half the money in for his ungrateful, spoiled brats. We had planned a day to travel and see his parents on the 21st this year to exchange gifts and guess who gets a text? My poor, dear taken advantage of hubby with a text from his daughter (maybe his 4th text all year) asking if we were going to see them (they are not close to grandparents at all) and saying they would be coming. She did not ASK her grandparents, just said they were coming. WOW. Can you say "no manners"? He just accepted that this is how they work, but I freaked. I said I don't want to go and am sick of the crap and they are just going to get gifts, they don't actually give a crap about anyone but themselves. And no one says a damned thing!!! He said he wants me to go. I warned him that I will respect his parents house as I adore them, but I will not tolerate them disrespecting him or his parents in front of me. They may be peace makers, but I WILL say something to them. I really could give a crap if they like me or not, but enough is enough. Any advice?