SD23 sleeps over numerous times a week (40 hrs one week/60 hrs the next)
It's the 60 hr week that kills me.
She told DH that she "heard us" one night. Now there is no sex when she's here.
She's 23 ?!?! Tell her to get over it and turn up the ipod... I'd also tell DH that if another grown adult woman determined our sex life - there wouldn't be one. That is insane.
What the hell??? Tell SD to wear earpugs (buy them for her if you have to)if she can hear you guys. I went through a similar thing a couple of years ago when SS 21 was still living at home. He was a hermit with lots of anxiety & mental issues & NEVER left this room. He'd be up till all hours on his computer, his room was right next to ours. I don't know if SS had said something to DH about hearing us but DH got weird one night worried SS would hear us. I was furious that night & cried myself to sleep. But the next night I said HELL NO this little brat isn't going to ruin my sex life too, he had spoiled so much of my relationship with DH already. When we went to bed that night I pulled out all the stops & DH never refused me again with the SS excuse. Show DH what he's missing & then have a talk with him about SD making other sleeping arrangements. Remember that the way to a man's heart isn't only through his stomach! Good luck!!
I am usually not in the mood anyway when she's here. She has autism and won't live away from parents. That explains why she said something in the first place...no social skills. I will invest in earplugs.
OK, One assumes you are being reasonably discreet and not swinging from the chandelier or playing adult movies in surround-sound. I actually cannot have sex with our cats in the room. THey sit on the end of the bed and watch which is very creepy.
Earplugs or tell your DH that you are getting a BOB (Battery Operated Boyfriend). There are silent options available. And when he wants to be part of your erotic world again he is welcome. However your emotions and drive aren't governed by his daughter using your place like a hotel.
As a 23 yr. old adult she is spending far too much time at the house. Does not seem like she is spending much quality time with dad at these hours. Insist on letting her know what days are your designated sex nights. Maybe leave 1 night a week open. Then lounge around in sheer nighties for the evening.If she has a problem with you being sexual with your DH on these nights remind her to visit in the day time or limited to nights you designated as available. It might mean you have to actually spend 10 or 15 min. every night having sex to prove your new found increased interest. DH probably won't be complaining.
This is ridiculous, why is this adult skid dictating anything in your house? Even if she has developmental disabilities it doesn't mean she gets to dictate anything and if she has disabilities its all the more reason she shouldn't be allowed to dictate anything, she should be enrolled in a program to help similar disabled people and encouraged to grow up to the best of her ability. It's not her decision when and or if you have sex and if your DH is entertaining letting her have her way he needs a whack with a frying pan.
By some raunchy porn DVDs with very demonstrative sound tracks and play them at full volume from the moment SD-23 walks in to your home until she leaves. Once bed time hits you and DH hit it hard every night. Even if you are not hitting it grab the head board and bang it against the wall for 30mins to an hour every night while you are reading in bed while faking some good climaxes.
Throw out your best impression of the When Harry met Sally Meg Ryan cafe fake orgasm scene every time you and DH are behind closed doors, in the kitchen together, etc.....
Stop by your favorite toy store and buy the craziest shit you can find. Leave it around the house in obvious places that she will see. Think of her face when she finds the Monster Strap On (she won't know who is the one waring it), leather lingerie, whips, chains, crotchless panties, cock rings, etc.....
Whether you use them or not you can drive her nuts with the stuff. You can even buy some blank DVDs and label the covers 02/12/2011 swingers party, (DH's name) & witsend71 do it doggy for UPorn, etc.... :jawdrop:
You have the perfect opportunity to run this young lady off to her own life and home rather than letting her interfere with yours.
Have fun with this one. I definitely would if I were you.
I don't get it. You're married. She's 23. Whether she likes it or not- she must be adult enough to accept that's what married adults do. Is there another room she can sleep in away from your bedroom if she doesn't like to hear it? ... Otherwise, earplugs or music sounds good to me! Silly that it has to be an event that everyone has a say in!
Oh no you mean she knows married people have sex!!!! What a freaking brat! 23 come on, I am only 2 years older than her and wouldn't act like that. She needs to mind her own business and get her own place if it bothers her so much! It is not her life she needs to get one!
Sounds familiar, My youngest SD would fly into rages if she thought she heard my DH and I doing the wild thing. Her room was 2 rooms down the hall. The next morning when she thought she had heard something she would alternate from silent treatment to informing me how damaging her having to listen to us was to name calling pissiness. She was 17. The best part, most of the time we were laughing at each other or something on tv. She never really knew what exactly we were doing and only confronted me.
I did try to tone things down but that didn't help. So finally DH took to making as much noise as he could to get her to confront him. It finally happened and they had a knock down.
She toned down for a awhile. It was a relief when she moved out.
Growing up I could sometimes here my mom - until I finally told her she squeals.
I lived by neighbors that I could hear. It was annoying as hell. They didn't get a hint that we could hear and be respectful to tone it down. You have a guess you need to tone it down some and/or offer her ear plugs.
I do not find your attitude is productive and I think your dh has more of an issue than your sd mentioning she can hear you.
Your dh might have issues because he is EMBARRASSED. My mom was embarrassed as hell. I was younger however, your sd has Autism so things are going to be a little different.
personally I think http://www.chatxxx.co is a better site for adult chat and cybersex.
Kind off off the topic at hand don't you think.
I say get the woman earplugs and tell her to get over it.... sex is a important part of a relationship, it allows couples to be intimate, it's hard to get time to spend with your partner with work and family, don't let her ruin what little time you have alone together.
Ha, as a daughter I know what it's like to hear those awkward moments. I had heard a lot of things coming from my dad's room and while it was odd and made me a little uncomfortbale (as a daughter it's just plain bizarre to even think about) I never said anything until one time I could hear the headboard banging from all the way upstairs and it kept me up until 1 in the morning. I didn't want my dad to be embarassed but once it happened again I did decide to do something, however, I did everything I could not to be inappropriate.
I told my dad I had heard some banging the night before and I thought that the tree above our house was dropping snow on the roof. I never even hinted that I knew the truth.
They put a pillow behind the headboard, and nothing was ever mentioned again.
My dad doesn't even ask if I have a sex life let alone make comments so I figured I owed him the same respect, but dealing with the loud noises while I was trying to sleep and on top of that knowing what was going on would have drove me INSANE if it had continued.
My husband in the beginning of our relationship used to try to kiss me and all that touchy stuff in front of my daughter when she was little, it used to make me so mad. But guess what? As soon as his kids were around he wouldn't even hold my hand..I can not tell you how mad that made me..Geesh.
She's 23 ?!?! Tell her to get
She's 23 ?!?! Tell her to get over it and turn up the ipod... I'd also tell DH that if another grown adult woman determined our sex life - there wouldn't be one. That is insane.
What the hell??? Tell SD to
What the hell??? Tell SD to wear earpugs (buy them for her if you have to)if she can hear you guys. I went through a similar thing a couple of years ago when SS 21 was still living at home. He was a hermit with lots of anxiety & mental issues & NEVER left this room. He'd be up till all hours on his computer, his room was right next to ours. I don't know if SS had said something to DH about hearing us but DH got weird one night worried SS would hear us. I was furious that night & cried myself to sleep. But the next night I said HELL NO this little brat isn't going to ruin my sex life too, he had spoiled so much of my relationship with DH already. When we went to bed that night I pulled out all the stops & DH never refused me again with the SS excuse. Show DH what he's missing & then have a talk with him about SD making other sleeping arrangements. Remember that the way to a man's heart isn't only through his stomach! Good luck!!
Yep...THIS. Not only do you
Yep...THIS. Not only do you have sex, you make sure you are LOUD as can be. Maybe this will discourage her from spending the night so much.
I am usually not in the mood
I am usually not in the mood anyway when she's here. She has autism and won't live away from parents. That explains why she said something in the first place...no social skills. I will invest in earplugs.
OK, One assumes you are being
OK, One assumes you are being reasonably discreet and not swinging from the chandelier or playing adult movies in surround-sound. I actually cannot have sex with our cats in the room. THey sit on the end of the bed and watch which is very creepy.
Earplugs or tell your DH that you are getting a BOB (Battery Operated Boyfriend). There are silent options available. And when he wants to be part of your erotic world again he is welcome. However your emotions and drive aren't governed by his daughter using your place like a hotel.
As a 23 yr. old adult she is
As a 23 yr. old adult she is spending far too much time at the house. Does not seem like she is spending much quality time with dad at these hours. Insist on letting her know what days are your designated sex nights. Maybe leave 1 night a week open. Then lounge around in sheer nighties for the evening.If she has a problem with you being sexual with your DH on these nights remind her to visit in the day time or limited to nights you designated as available. It might mean you have to actually spend 10 or 15 min. every night having sex to prove your new found increased interest. DH probably won't be complaining.
This is ridiculous, why is
This is ridiculous, why is this adult skid dictating anything in your house? Even if she has developmental disabilities it doesn't mean she gets to dictate anything and if she has disabilities its all the more reason she shouldn't be allowed to dictate anything, she should be enrolled in a program to help similar disabled people and encouraged to grow up to the best of her ability. It's not her decision when and or if you have sex and if your DH is entertaining letting her have her way he needs a whack with a frying pan.
This can be so much fun to
This can be so much fun to deal with! }:)
By some raunchy porn DVDs with very demonstrative sound tracks and play them at full volume from the moment SD-23 walks in to your home until she leaves. Once bed time hits you and DH hit it hard every night. Even if you are not hitting it grab the head board and bang it against the wall for 30mins to an hour every night while you are reading in bed while faking some good climaxes.
Throw out your best impression of the When Harry met Sally Meg Ryan cafe fake orgasm scene every time you and DH are behind closed doors, in the kitchen together, etc.....
Stop by your favorite toy store and buy the craziest shit you can find. Leave it around the house in obvious places that she will see. Think of her face when she finds the Monster Strap On (she won't know who is the one waring it), leather lingerie, whips, chains, crotchless panties, cock rings, etc.....
Whether you use them or not you can drive her nuts with the stuff. You can even buy some blank DVDs and label the covers 02/12/2011 swingers party, (DH's name) & witsend71 do it doggy for UPorn, etc.... :jawdrop:
You have the perfect opportunity to run this young lady off to her own life and home rather than letting her interfere with yours.
Have fun with this one. I definitely would if I were you.
Best regards,
i'd go get some toys and get
i'd go get some toys and get loud just to piss her off, but i'm also in revenge mode right now
I don't get it. You're
I don't get it. You're married. She's 23. Whether she likes it or not- she must be adult enough to accept that's what married adults do. Is there another room she can sleep in away from your bedroom if she doesn't like to hear it? ... Otherwise, earplugs or music sounds good to me! Silly that it has to be an event that everyone has a say in!
Oh no you mean she knows
Oh no you mean she knows married people have sex!!!! What a freaking brat! 23 come on, I am only 2 years older than her and wouldn't act like that. She needs to mind her own business and get her own place if it bothers her so much! It is not her life she needs to get one!
Sounds familiar, My youngest
Sounds familiar, My youngest SD would fly into rages if she thought she heard my DH and I doing the wild thing. Her room was 2 rooms down the hall. The next morning when she thought she had heard something she would alternate from silent treatment to informing me how damaging her having to listen to us was to name calling pissiness. She was 17. The best part, most of the time we were laughing at each other or something on tv. She never really knew what exactly we were doing and only confronted me.
I did try to tone things down but that didn't help. So finally DH took to making as much noise as he could to get her to confront him. It finally happened and they had a knock down.
She toned down for a awhile. It was a relief when she moved out.
Growing up I could sometimes
Growing up I could sometimes here my mom - until I finally told her she squeals.
I lived by neighbors that I could hear. It was annoying as hell. They didn't get a hint that we could hear and be respectful to tone it down. You have a guess you need to tone it down some and/or offer her ear plugs.
I do not find your attitude is productive and I think your dh has more of an issue than your sd mentioning she can hear you.
Your dh might have issues because he is EMBARRASSED. My mom was embarrassed as hell. I was younger however, your sd has Autism so things are going to be a little different.
personally I think
personally I think http://www.chatxxx.co is a better site for adult chat and cybersex.
Kind off off the topic at hand don't you think.
I say get the woman earplugs and tell her to get over it.... sex is a important part of a relationship, it allows couples to be intimate, it's hard to get time to spend with your partner with work and family, don't let her ruin what little time you have alone together.
WTF?!? I'd have sex louder,
WTF?!? I'd have sex louder, just to be spiteful! }:)
Ha, as a daughter I know what
Ha, as a daughter I know what it's like to hear those awkward moments. I had heard a lot of things coming from my dad's room and while it was odd and made me a little uncomfortbale (as a daughter it's just plain bizarre to even think about) I never said anything until one time I could hear the headboard banging from all the way upstairs and it kept me up until 1 in the morning. I didn't want my dad to be embarassed but once it happened again I did decide to do something, however, I did everything I could not to be inappropriate.
I told my dad I had heard some banging the night before and I thought that the tree above our house was dropping snow on the roof. I never even hinted that I knew the truth.
They put a pillow behind the headboard, and nothing was ever mentioned again.
My dad doesn't even ask if I have a sex life let alone make comments so I figured I owed him the same respect, but dealing with the loud noises while I was trying to sleep and on top of that knowing what was going on would have drove me INSANE if it had continued.
Yeah, didn't you know that
Yeah, didn't you know that "old people" having SEX is GROSS!!??
My son told me this. I told him "That's nice." He moved out soon after that.
My husband in the beginning
My husband in the beginning of our relationship used to try to kiss me and all that touchy stuff in front of my daughter when she was little, it used to make me so mad. But guess what? As soon as his kids were around he wouldn't even hold my hand..I can not tell you how mad that made me..Geesh.