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MamaFox's picture
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We had a long talk with the visitation facilitator and we have come to the conclusion with her that BM and her H are doing everything they can to screw us out of visitation.

We decided with the Facilitator, that the date we have repeatedly asked for for visitation (the yss' s birthday on Saturday) will happen with BM or not. The facilitator put in her notes where and when the visitation is supposed to happen. Which is at the public park the kids will be going to for yss' s birthday. She informed us that while it is against the "spirit" of the CO, she doesn't think they will be able to make a good case for contempt, if we go with our plan.

Our plan is to show up at the park, when the visitation is supposed to be scheduled, with a copy of the CO since BM "lost" hers, along with copies of state title 43 where it outlines the court punishments for CP' s and their partners who go against the CO visitations. And a blank copy of a motion to enforce visitation. FDH is supposed to hand these to BM, telling her we will comply with the Courts and the CO and if she does not, we will be taking her and h to court with multiple contempt of court charges, and if she continues to not comply will be filing the motion to enforce on Monday.

We file the motion either way come Monday, and if she doesn't comply with THAT we will be filing for modification of custody shortly after.

What do you all think?

spittenfire's picture

Not insane..... you and your DH are fighting for your rights to see SS according to the court order. She is the one that has forced such drastic measures!

dragonfly5's picture

CRAZO withheld...DH filed the paperwork...hearings: once, twice...oh, but after the third time the judge had enough of her crap. Sent her to parenting class and told her he never wanted to see her in his court again for violation the CO.

That was 3 1/2 years ago...DH now gets his kids..when he is suppose too.

Do it...again and again until you are heard. In my state it only takes a $20.00 filing fee. DH goes to court without and attorney. So it cost him $60.00 and the time off work..

It was worth it. He gets to see the kids, and it takes the control away from her.
The kids love and want to see their dad.

MamaFox's picture

Yeah since BM is so anti-courtroom, I'm finding out its actually thousands of times cheaper than getting a lawyer (I mean that oh so literally). She knows with all her lies if she sees the inside of a courtroom, they may just take her for everything she has.

It's pretty simple to file motions and modifications. Frankly from what I have seen other Dads get modifications over, and what our BM has done, I see no reason why this won't work out.

MamaFox's picture

Gosh, thanks Ladies.

My anxiety has been at a peak since we talked to the Facilitator last night. 80% of me thinks this is a great plan, the other part thinks we are crazy, willfully going against the CO. But it's not really going against the CO as long as we are in a public place. The CO states "no physical interaction with the children outside of supervised visitation." While "supervised visitation" is stated as any scheduled visitation through a facilitator, in a public place" aka...the park.

And it's only the good and productive thing to actually help BM by giving her another copy of the CO since she lost hers right?

I'm just scared. Just in general. Yay generalized anxiety disorder!!!!

JingerVZ's picture

Lost time I saw GAD wasn't it an Oscar Pistorius excuse? Tell BM to visit SA and try toilet doors at night... Tasteless yes.

I think mamafox you have every right to be anxious. Who know what will happen at the park or with your custody modification. Wishing you luck and sending you hugs.

MamaFox's picture

Pretty sure she will be. At the park that night, the town has scheduled their annual end of summer fire works show and YSS has gone every year on his birthday. It works for BM since she doesn't have to you know, actually make an effort to plan a birthday for the kid.

dragonfly5's picture

^^Crazo doesn't do parties for her kids either. My DH did parties for them after the divorce, now we all do them together. It is fun to plan and get everything together. They are teens so it is easy and fun.

The wack job has even taken credit for the parties at our home. But she can't be bothered with planning something for her kids. She takes them out to eat...oh, wait, she does that everyday because she does not cook. So basically she does nothing out of the ordinary.

The skids thank us over and over when we do something for their birthdays.

Orange County Ca's picture

As long as the facilitator is behind you no harm will come your way via the court system.