What happens when social services comes to your house?
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I have never had any involvement with social services so I have no idea what to expect. They called my DH and said they need to meet with him today because of some "allegations" that were made (DH and BM are in the middle of a custody dispute and she is trying to pull whatever crap she can to make us look bad).
Has anyone ever had social services come to their house? What was it like?
i work for social services
i work for social services and protective services workers are required to investigate all complaints. if nothing substantial to back up allegations they close the file. i say just be yourself and answer the questions
Growing up my parents were
Growing up my parents were foster parents, so we were visited by SS every 3-6 mo. Before they came my mom would just make sure that the house was clean (as clean as it could be with 12 kids in the home.)
They would do a 'walk through' to make sure there wasn't anything out of the 'ordinary' and to insure that they weren't breaking any laws when it came to room sharing. (4 same sex kids could be in one room.)
After the walk through the Social worker would often sit down with my mom (if dad wasn't present) and talk about the kids and how they were doing in the home, school etc.
The Social worker will talk to you and DH about the allegations against you, and ask questions to clear them up. It's pretty simple, and nothing to be fearful about, unless there is something going on. It will ultimately make BM (or whom ever put in the complaint) look bad for falsely accusing you of doing things you're not... This could go in your favor in court.
Oh, also make sure all of your medications are up somewhere where little ones can't get them too. This includes ALL over the counter drugs even Tums and cough drops.
I hope this can help you. = )
Thank you, that does help! I
Thank you, that does help! I just don't have any experience with this sort of thing so I was a little nervous- I have nothing to hide, SD has her own room and the house is clean, but just the thought of my house being searched is a little intimidating. I have no idea what BM even said to them. I can only imagine.
In our case BM called them
In our case BM called them because SS13/ that time was 8/ told her that his father closed him in to the dark bathroom. (What actualy happened that he did not wanted to brush his teeth, and talked back to his father. He told him, that he can't come out until he did not brush his teeth. SS was very mad and screaming, but no one locked him in, and turned lights off)
One woman came to 'investigate' the case, and interviewed all of us. My BS10 got separated from us and she interviewed him in his room.
We had no idea why she had to come until she told us the allegations.
Weeks later the case was closed, they found out nobody abused SS.
Wow smh. I mean I understand
Wow smh. I mean I understand they have to investigate when people call in because I'm sure some of the stories are true, but this BM nonsense should really be dealt with. If they file a false report, there should be consequences (just like if they were to file a false police report).
Yes I've had CPS come to my
Yes I've had CPS come to my home twice. The first time was in my first marriage for my sd. Her mother, who was across the country, got pissy at dh so called CPS and said he was hitting her. I had no idea u til I opened the door one afternoon and there they stood. My sd was at her cousins house. I gave them that adds and they went there to speak to her. The worker called back and said they were not substantiating the report and it would just be kept on file for 6 mo ths and then destroyed. The second time was an legation against current bm for leaving ss ho e alone at age 5. The worker came out to interview ss. He didn't do a walk thru- he didn't even take ss into a different room- just sat him down and asked him what happened.
FDH and I went through a home
FDH and I went through a home study with CPS when getting custody of his son. We were interviewed together with the social worker then she walked around the house basically to make sure that our living space was safe, livable and that his son had a room with a bed in it. Nothing too in depth.
Thank you all! DH met with
Thank you all! DH met with the social worker today. I was not able to get out of work in time or else I would have been there too. Anyway, the social worker told DH that BM called 2 days ago and said SD JUST told her that she saw her dad doing drugs. DH’s response was “how is that… when BM has not seen or spoken to SD in 2 weeks?” So BM pretty much made herself look like an idiot.
She’s been filling SD’s head with all these lies about DH and I. She even told SD she will get her a puppy and a giraffe if she says she wants to live with her. Yes, a giraffe. We were talking about it with SD last night and I explained to her that people aren’t allowed to have giraffes in houses, only in zoos.
SD doesn’t even have a bed at BM’s house. When DH brought that up, SD’s response was that her mom is “making” her a bed. Seriously?? No she’s not…
This is all so irritating! DH and I are trying to get pregnant and I am seriously considering going back on the pill with all this drama going on. I am afraid if I get pregnant, I will miscarry because of all the stress.
Glad it all turned out ok! BM
Glad it all turned out ok! BM sent the cops to our house once to do a welfare check. Cops walked through the house, and saw nothing wrong (of course). We told the cops that BM had threatened to do this every time we had the kids since we had just moved in together. They told dispatch who called BM and said if she did it again, she would be charged with filing a false report. It worked! She never tried it again.