My 17yo SS is a huge slob. He turns 18 this September and will not clean up after himself unless ordered to. It's total insanity.

He lives in a bedroom in our basement - food will be left crusted in bowls, plates, and cups for days - then brought up to the kitchen counter to be washed. Not by him, mind you. But by anyone who feels they should clean up after His Highness.

He never does laundry for himself - unless ordered. His dad does it for him then demands that his son take care of it, which is only about less than a 1/4 of a time. This teenager has more clothes than a woman so he could go for weeks without washing anything so it doesn't phase him to throw his clothes on the laundry room floor for days without a care about when they get done.

Trash goes out to the curb on Thursday nights - and of course he doesn't do it unless ordered.

He has several odd ball friends that hang out and play video games with him in the basement and he makes no move to clean up after his friends either. He'll cook huge meals for himself and friends and just leave every last dish, pot, pan, skillet, plate, cup and whatever else out in the kitchen. He can't cook worth a crap so the kitchen usually smells like burnt pans.

I have gotten to the point I don't touch a thing he messes up. Nothing. I don't care what it looks like - I am NOT - NOT - going to clean up after a grown man.

BUT - I HAVE watched my DH clean up after him. More than I care to say. He's rather save face than start an argument.

A couple days ago my SS left a huge mess in the kitchen that my DH came home to. He works 2nd shift and gets home around midnight. This was the 2nd time in about a week and a half. The last mess was a gigantic skillet full of grease, hamburger, and a stove covered in grease. Dishes everywhere. The mess he left a couple days ago I confronted my DH that morning on WHY it was there and WHY was it still happening. Both sinks were full of dishes that were left downstairs and brought up to be washed. Then more were dirtied so he and his friends could eat the night before.

So my DH washed them - that was 2 days ago. What a wuss.

Last night I get home and the kitchen was a ROYAL mess. Spaghetti had been cooked and it smelled like crap. Huge pots were used to make it and the sink had been filled with more plates and there were spices all over the place, pop cans all over...you get the jist. A total mess.

That was about 6 pm. I refused to clean it and left it for my DH to find.

Well - the you know what hit the fan. It was around midnight and I could hear what sounded like plates hitting the sink - LOUD. My DH blew up and went off the deep end. He was screaming bloody murder at his son. He had gotten him up and was really reaming him over the coals in the kitchen.

He got in bed and I asked if he was okay..he was so angry his breath was almost a rasp. He was cracking his knuckles and began to tell me he was tired of coming home to a mess..tired of doing laundry all the time..tired of the trash not getting put out...tired of doing dishes...tired of cleaning up after his son while he hangs out with his friends playing video games.

For the first time I actually heard my DH go off about his son. He has ALWAYS cleaned up after him. Mainly because I refuse to do it. I don't clean up after my own daughter who's 19 so I will not do it for his. My daughter knows better.

I sometimes get the impression that I'm expected to clean up the mess...but I had better never hear it. Just because I'm the woman of the house I won't be expected to clean up after my husband's son who is a slob from hell.

Anyone else deal with a slob whose parent cleans up after them? And at the age of 17??