We found out recently that the youngest two skids were skipping homework, again, and one was in danger of failing English. BM did nothing. We can see all the grades and when homework is done, what test grades are, etc. online. BF was away on a business conference last week and had other meetings scheduled for early this week so he asked BM to call the teacher as the skid was making up nonsense about his grades. He told us they don't grade the homework, he handed in stuff it says he didn't, etc. but got annoyed and hung up on his father when Dad said he'd just call the teacher.

It's Wednesday and BF finally called the school today because BM didn't. He hasn't heard yet, but based on what we see there's no way he can pass this semester.

Oldest skid calls his Dad today to say he's embarrassed by the front of the house being a mess and would like to rake, but nobody will help and hold the bag. BF asks youngest skid to hold the bag. Youngest skid hangs up on Dad... again. So BF calls back and gets BM's unemployed, living off the child support, boyfriend on the phone and asks if he could hold the bag so oldest skid can rake up the leave and such. The boyfriend hangs up on him!

BF calls me to remind me he's going to be home late tonight due to a meeting and tells me all this. I was freaking furious. BM's boyfriend is living there for two years, collects food stamps illegally, and is freaking refusing to hold the garbage bag and hangs up like the 13 year old did? I told my BF to call back and tell the lowlife piece of crap to hold the bag or get ready to bend over in the prison showers for welfare fraud because I'll report his lowlife, child support and welfare stealing ass. Unfortunately my BF doesn't have the gift for comebacks and confrontation in this kind of situation that I do so he's not quite ready to do that. I don't want to do it because I've already called his ass on the carpet and threatened to call the police on him if I hear he manhandles one of the skids ever again. I don't want them to see me as the enforcer every time, but they were grateful that I intervened with the manhandling. This isn't the same kind of situation.

I feel bad for the oldest skid because he's realized that he lives in a pigpen inside and out. His mother and her boyfriend rarely shower and he is too embarrassed by that and the dirt in the house to invite any friends over. Child welfare has been there before but she plays the pity-me card and cleans up for the follow up visit then lets everything go back to hell.

I feel a little less stressed now that I've vented this. Thank you all for listening.