Should I go to SD's preschool graduation?
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First let me just say I think a preschool graduation is pretty stupid. But DH and MIL have both invited me to go. It's in the evening so I can't say I have to work (already tried that). I really don't want to go. I don't particularly like the skid and BM and I do not get along, to say the least (she has threatened to kill me on more than one occasion). The whole event would just be extremely awkward and not something I want to put myself through. How would you handle this?
I wouldn't go. I never go
I wouldn't go. I never go anywhere she is and I always avoid situations around BM. Sometimes though I think it would be better if I made my presence felt at every single event so the BM gets faced with reality of me on a regular basis. I think it could possibly help her get things in perspective. But then the next event comes up, that she is going to and I think nup, not going, would rather watch a good movie at home.
I guess it depends on how far
I guess it depends on how far along you are in your relationship with your SO. If you are just in a dating type relationship I probably wouldn't go, but if things are getting serious I'd go.
The first thing I went to of SD6's was a preschool christmas play, we had gotten married earlier that month so yeah our relationship was pretty serious, lol. We had her that morning and I did her hair and picked out her dress. BM was so pissed, she texted DH about it for days saying how ugly the dress was and how horrid her hair looked.
I thought BM's reaction was pretty funny.
For me it's fun to go to those things not just to see SD6 who really isn't a bad kid, but to watch BM look like someone gagging on a cow turd, lol.
Lol! Your skids bm sounds
Lol! Your skids bm sounds like a piece of work too!
My DH and I have been married 1 year and together 4 years.
I still have not been to an event BM is at, not only because of her
but honestly I just dont have any desire to do skid related things.
The graduation is on a Friday night that we don't have SD and I
really don't want to spend my skid-free Friday night at the stupid
graduation. You are right though, maybe I should go and make
my presence known.
lol, yeah she is! For me I
lol, yeah she is! For me I guess it's easy to be at SD's things because BM is so freaking weird. And once other moms get to know you it feels really good to watch them realize on their own what a fruit cake BM can be. One mom told me she wasn't going to let her daughter play at BM's house anymore because she said BM was really awkward and seemed unfriendly.
But I don't blame you about not wanting to go on a skid free night. Those are few and far between here, sometimes we have SD months at a time. And when I have our baby (my first) I'll probably be spending less time at SD's extras. Just because I'll be busy!
Let me know how it goes if you do decide to go. I'm always in for some juicy BM gossip. lol.
Right, if I do go I will be
Right, if I do go I will be going straight from work so I won't really have a chance to get all done up or anything. I'll be in work clothes, which for me is business casual. Nothing too fancy but not jeans and a t shirt either.
I wouldn't go. Seriously, why
I wouldn't go. Seriously, why on earth would I go to a place where someone who has threatened to kill me will be.
That's my thoughts exactly!
That's my thoughts exactly! DH's family acts like I should go, but why?? It's not my freakin kid and her mother has been nothing short of an evil b^%$# to me the entire time DH and I have been together! I can't think of anything WORSE to do with my time than to go to a skid event that BM will be at.
I wouldn't. I think
I wouldn't. I think 'graduating' anything is stupid unless it is college. To not graduate high school actually requires more work than graduating.
Preschool? This isn't even compulsory! Nah, have a 'sick friend' who needs a meds picked up from Walgreens. Well, gin can be used for medicinal purposes.... just saying...
^^ That's how I feel. I just
Hahahaha! "you'd rather tap
Hahahaha! "you'd rather tap dance nekkid in the Food Court at the mall than be in the same room with her." That's hilarious and so true! When DH first told me about it, I kind of blew it off but then we were at his parent's house yesterday for a bbq and his mom asked if I was going. I told her eh probably not and she acted like I should go. Then his sister got in on it. You know how that goes!
I wouldn't go and I would
I wouldn't go and I would calmly and clearly explain to DH why. If he can't understand and appreciate your honesty, then there's a bigger problem.
Seriously .. if she's threatened your life, why would you want to go play nice happy family with her? Not to mention, it can make things awkward for the skid.
When I do attend events with DH for the skids where BM will be, we sit far away and minimize ALL interaction with her. She knows better than to threaten my life }:)