A rant for your Monday morning about my angelic SD
I swear to God SD (3) raises my BP to stroke level in less than a minute. Her grandparents continue to say what an 'angel' she is. Well we were stuck with her yesterday afternoon and the horns were out! She told us we both 'stunk' repeatedly ALL.DAY.LONG. when you tell her to do anything, she gives you this blank stare or totally ignores you altogether. Then the thing that really took the cake was when I asked DH why he was cranky (as if there was any question) and SD interjects 'Bc he hates you' :jawdrop: He quickly yelled at her and told her he loves me and our baby (I'm 6mths pregnant) VERY much and that she was not to talk like that, which ellicited more pouting naturally. She is only getting worse and thank the lord we don't have her often, but I am terrified of what she is going to do to our baby when she's born, as she will randomly walk by and smack you for no apparent reason. How did you handle keeping your babies away from SC to make sure they aren't smacked or so that they don't pick up their nasty bad habits and behavior?
I think she is probably
I think she is probably jealous of the fact that this baby will get to live with DH and his/her mom (you) full-time and she only visits DH and doesn't even see her mom, but doesn't know how to properly vocalize it because she's 3. I think on some level, she is worried that DH will love your baby more than her. I think that even though she's 3, she can pick up on the fact that this baby was planned and she wasn't. She doesn't know how to vocalize her problems and therefore acts them out. Does he do things to bond with her, and is she getting professional help? Has he talked with her grandparents about her acting out, and tried to come up with a plan with them?
At this point she isn't in
At this point she isn't in any form of therapy. We have both expressed concerns to her grandparents about her behavior and they brush it off and make it seem like we are the bad ones, bc 'she's only 3, and usually such a good little girl' (direct quote). When she is with us she is discplined we are consistent, I believe, in what we expect of her. Another thing she does constantly is say she is hungry and as soon as I or whoever gets food for her she will refuse to eat it, unless you basically feed it to her, which makes me nuts! Neither DH or I were allowed to pull that with our parents growing up and I sure am not going to allow my baby to behave like that. I'm sure it is an attention thing with DH and I but it's very exhausting and frustrating, I literally dreaded her arrival all day yesterday bc I knew what we were in for.
"as she will randomly walk by
"as she will randomly walk by and smack you for no apparent reason."
I'd smack her back.
Venus De Milo used to do this
Venus De Milo used to do this right up through age 9 1/2 when she PASed out. I used to put up with it until I whacked her back one day and she miraculously STOPPED!
Nip it in the bud NOW while
Nip it in the bud NOW while you can. My bf's D hits my boys all the time...I had a similar blog vent I created last night also. And she's 10..not sure it can be rectified no but I hope so.
Look-3 is a tough age regardless but you can correct it still. I'm at the point I could care less abotu "poor sd"..that does not justify foul behavior.
Just this wknd-she pushed over the NEW bike my son got for his bday-fought and pouted and refused to eat because she didn't get to chose the first cupcake (on HIS bday!), and shoved him to the ground to get on the computer. She's not welcome anymore
At least she's still at such
At least she's still at such a young age that such behaviour can be stamped out before it becomes engrained. It seems she's jealous if the new baby and scared of the changes it will inevitably bring, and it's causing her to act out in the only way a 3 year old knows how. She needs plenty of reassurance that she is and will still be just as loved when the baby arrives.
Nothing daddy swatting some
Nothing daddy swatting some 3yo ass won't fix. Lippy shit gets corrected.... once... Then it gets corporal correction each and every time it happens.