He should be encouraging you NOT to come over so you don't get sick and have to miss work. And what are you supposed to do, crawl into bed with BF while his kid is sleeping in the room, too?  He sounds like he's very manipulative.

Last I checked being family doesn't involve being sick, losing out on work, etc. You are right. Plus, men have this "family" idea that doesn't pan out. Run from anyone with kids. As MANY post here and myself as someone who is now divorcing over the kid crap, run now, run fast and don't look back. Oh and no way I'd sleep with the kid in the same room, unless he was like, having breathing problems and at risk of dying or something.

It is normal to not want to be around a contagious kid (or anyone contagious, for that matter), especially if you don't need to be.

Is this the same guy you've been dating for quite some time?  I thought you'd left him, but I might be confusing you with someone else.  If it's the same guy, my advice would be to stay away from the contagious kid, and not go back when he's not contagious anymore, either.

Your BF needs to get over himself. Who the heck wants to be around ANYONE that is sick??? Doesn't matter if its his kids, the neighbor, or their mother. No one wants to expose themselves and end up having to miss days because they don't feel well.

What the heck is wrong with him????

I agree with all of the other posters comments and would also like to add that his son is too old to be sleeping in the same bedroom as his parent, sick or otherwise. I can understand if he was younger but he is at the age where he should be in his own bed and checked on instead. The only exception would be if the child was in danger of dying or had severe breathing problems, was on a respirator or somehting like that, in which he should be in the hospital if that is the case, not at home. However I have a feeling this is not the case and it is more about coddling and gratifying a need to feel babied which should've ended shortly after the toddler years. 9 is too old for this. A couch bed in the living room is fine when sick and the child can also sleep in his own room and checked on periodically. There is not need for him to be in his parents room at that age and  interrupting everyone else's sleep when he is no longer a toddler.

Look, my DH and I have been married 7 years and I still don’t want to be around SD when she’s sick. If we didn’t live together there would be absolutely no reason for me to go over to his house when there’s a sick kid there. I don’t know why he would even want or expect you to. He sounds like a huge douche! 

You are not the one being unreasonable.  I will give you two guesses on who is being unreasonable, and neither guess counts.

My bride and I have been married for nearly 25 years.  On several occassions one or the other of us have slept in the guest room while the other was sick and needing to rest.

He is being manipulative.  Call him on it.

Good luck.

Is this weird of me.?

No, your BF is the weird one.

I am curious. What type of contagious virus results in his son being off school for several days? Usually you are cleared to go back to school 24 hours after your first dose of anti-biotics (or anti-virals) or after your fever breaks. The anti-biotics and anti-virals now are so strong. They work very quickly. It sounds like a case of coddling/helicopter parenting to me in which he wants you to partake in. I would say no thanks and not feel bad at all about it. Let me guess his son also has an entitled attitude or victim mentality. One can only imagine why.

Let's say that you two were already married and living under the same roof with your own bio kids. EVEN THEN, its not unreasonable for you to limit where a contagious kid goes within the home. If one parent cannot take off work, then often times the other parent does more of the child care. If there are multiple bio kids, often times the kids are separated into different rooms, with the contagious kid staying out of the kitchen and common areas.

So back to your situation, you are being reasonable. You do not live together. He has not proposed. This is not your kid. If you miss days of work, will SO be compensating you or covering your lost wages?

Didn't think so.

I haven't read all of your background and this guy already sounds like a self-centered arse.

That a BIG RED flag.  I would never sleep in the same room as SK.  Your BF is not ready, he may never be ready for a relationship with you or anybody.  Why does he want you to get sick?  Because the BIG Happy Family get sick together?  I am not saying to  run but I would be getting a good pair of running shoes, just in case 

Stay healthy and stay away.  Your normal to say NO WAY !!!!

Next, never EVER sleep in the same bed with another man OR womans child. Never ever ever.

Nothing changes if nothing changes, Caitlin. You've been around StepTalk long enough to know that you're in a bad relationship that has zero hope of improving. Why do you think you keep hanging on? 

(((HUGS Caitlin))))

No one wants to be around sick kids. Even when BS was sick, I kept him in his room away from exH as I had sick time and he did not. 

This is just weird. This guy sounds too needy for my tastes. And why is HE sleeping with a contagious kid in his room??? That's absolutely ridiculous! I am getting the whiff of extreme neediness or overly controlling behavior from him.

You are not married. You are dating to find out how well you fit with each other. Now is when you both honestly draw your boundaries so the other gets a fair and honest read on who you are and whether you can live with each for all eternity. If you give in, you aren't being honest about who you are to him. Down the pike, when you are honest about it, it will be too late.

If you can't live with his boundaries, you find a new guy. Same with him -- if he absolutely can't live without you sleeping in his makeshift infectious disease unit, he can break it off with you and find some dumb woman who will.

Are you SURE you can't do better than this guy? I don't even know you and I'm pretty sure you can.

You're not married, no need to expose yourself to it.

However,

Dh and I DO allow the skids to sleep on the ocuch when they're sick, and when throwing up we typically keep them in the room with us.  (we also disinfect the house like crazy people. lol) That way we can keep an eye on things, and since they share a room, it makes sure we don't have another kid getting crazy sick.

He did try in the bed with us before, it drove me insane and we had a serious talk about that. Regardless of wanting to keep an eye on it, no need to get everyone else completely sick.

I think your reaction is reasonable. The kid is sick and in  BF's room. You don't need to get sick, he has yet to commit. Might as well let him get better first.