Mother's Day for Stepmoms
I know Mother’s Day is a few days away, but I just wanted to say an early happy Mother’s Day to all my fellow stepmoms and also the few BMs out there who are actually decent human beings! I’m having a moment here because my SD came home yesterday with a Mother’s Day card that she made for me (she’s 5). She was so excited to show it to me when she got home, she ran out to the kitchen (I was making dinner) and held it out in front of her and then gave me a hug after I told her I loved it.
And then she left to go to her real mother’s house to celebrate the week with her. She normally doesn’t go back until Thursday (we have week on/week off) and normally I would be THRILLED for her to be going home early but I felt really irked by it this week.
BM is a complete piece of trash and does NOTHING for SD. I am the one SD looks up to. I am the mother figure in her life. I’ve been with DH since SD was only 1. SD did a project at school recently about what she wants to be when she grows up and her answer was “Christine.” BM wants nothing to do with SD any other time and will push her off on other people as much as she can so she can go out and party, but when Mother’s Day comes around, she wants to take all the credit. SMH! I am really irked right now!
I have the same kind of
I have the same kind of feeling,... BM gets eowe,... Never does anything for them. The kids don't even have a bedroom at their mom's and sleep on airmattresses... Yet at every school function BM is running around taking pictures and fawning all over then acting like mother of the year.... It really makes me sick!
Same here. BM is supposed to
Same here. BM is supposed to have SD 50/50 however that never happens. She either picks her up late, drops her off early, or leaves her with her mother or whoever else she can find to watch her so she can get out of being a parent. BM doesn't even have her own place- currently she is living with her third baby daddy's mom. SD doesn't even have her own BED, let alone bedroom smh! But yep, she acts like she's freakin mother of the year!
I know the feeling. BM is
I know the feeling. BM is such a horrible role model to her two girls. Here is the quote from this past weekend.
SD6 came inside after picking roses and flowers (weeds) from the garden. "Here are your flowers since I am not going to see you on Mother's Day. I asked SD12 if she wanted to bring you some and she said 'No, she isn't even a mother and never even had a baby before'".
This was after I helped SD12 all weekend on a school project because her own mother can't even be bothered.
I know where all the negativity about me originates from and I always take the high road when I hear it but this one made me walk upstairs since I had a miscarriage a few months ago. Not like they know about it but it definitely stung.
OMG that is awful and I would
OMG that is awful and I would have been FUMING!
I am so sorry about your miscarriage! I haven't experienced one but I can imagine it must be horrible
I know BM probably is thinking what your SD said- that I am not a mom so why would I celebrate mother's day?
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO YOU
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO YOU TOO!!!
Yesterday I got a Mother's Day card from my Mom (which made me cry my eyes out)... and my DH told me he is taking me to dinner and a movie to celebrate Mother's Day.
I'm in a similar situation... however, BM has SD10 during the week... and while we're supposed to get SD eowe... BM lets us take her every weekend because she doesn't want her around. I swear BM only wants her around when it's to her advantage... or when she can be praised as being mother of the year (which she is FAR from) such as this weekend). DH has made it a point to tell me that I'm much more of a mother to SD than her BM is (on occasion, prior to dropping SD off from our house, one of SD's older half sisters will call and tell her not to say ANYTHING to BM when she gets home... that BM has stated that she doesn't want to be bothered by any of them- SD or her two older half sisters).
I get the whole working a lot situation, because I do to... but never once have I told SD that I don't want to be spoken too. Ugh...
Anyhow, sorry about the rambling...
We may not be BM's but in many cases, we are just as important and influential to our SK's as they can be (and in my case, I love SD like she is my own).