I KNOW I'm not the only one who sees this.....everyone except DH, that is!
Received a lovely e-mail from MIL this morning. She was telling me about how she's been busy baking pies for the holiday. She mentioned how many she was sending to everyone for the day. Then, mentioned that she baked two for SS26 to bring to BM's house for the holiday. WTF?????? BM slept with anyone who would have her, neglected her kids, and then bailed on DH and the kids when they were 5 and 7 years old! Yet, for the past 20+ years, she has been on a pedestal by DH's family, as if she's the virgin mother herself and all things pure and wonderful.
First of all----she ran around on HIM, left HIM and his KIDS, and the family still honors her very existence. Where I come from, that would be an insult to me from MY family!
Second -- MIL still sends her gifts and all kinds of stuff as if she's still an active member of the family (ok, people.....if she wanted to be a part of this family, she would have STAYED here and behaved herself!)
DH just doesn't get this. Personally, I don't care if BM and MIL are BFF! But, for the life of me, I don't get how everyone just ignores what she did and treats her like she did nothing wrong! In my opinion, some actions really do go above and beyond "forgive and forget", you know?
DH cannot comprehend that I do NOT want to spend every holiday with his family (I have family and friends, too!). I don't care if HE spends every waking moment with them, I prefer not to. I was 45 and widowed when I met him. He'd already been divorced 15 years and had gone through a bunch of girlfriends (who, incidentally didn't like his famly and hated his kids). DH just doesn't see that this is a little beyond normal, actually to the point of "enabling", which is a whole 'nother chapter in the book!
....and the holidays are just beginning.....
I have a MIL like that,
I have a MIL like that, actually I had two at one time. The "worst" just passed away after writing back in forth quite nasty things about me to BM on FB (hate it) and thought I would "not" see. Wrong. I did and wrote a very nice email to her about going behind her step son's back with a woman who basically robbed the guy blind. She passed away 4 days later but I did manage to get my wedding pics taken off of her profile first, thank goodness. :O
The second (DH's real mom) just calls to be nosey and ask the most tacky questions so of coursec when her number pops up, I ignore.
Your MIL sounds like a pill. Can you just disengage from her? That was the best thing I did.
I've already disengaged from
I've already disengaged from the adult stepkids. MIL is nice enough, just can't get past the whole deal with her and BM.
Kind of to the point where I avoid his family stuff as much as possible just to keep my own sanity.
Mine isn't. She doesn't
Mine isn't. She doesn't actually HATE BM but she just has nothing to talk to her about. Nothing in common in the first place.
If she started talking to her and expecting me to act like they are BFFs and she is the best thing EVER I would seriously talk to the in-laws about having her committed.
My parents are courteous to my ex. But they cannot forgive what he did to their daughter and grandchildren.