Sd9 has a serious attitude problem. She's had it for as long as I've know her, and I met her when she was 2. She have pictures of her at 2.5 with the same stank, evil, attitude face that she still makes (dh thought it was soooo cute back then).

We have managed to teach her not to openly show attitude and run her mouth at adults. She is still absolutely awful to other kids if she thinks no is watching her. But the attitude is still there right under the surface. Whenever something displeased her (which is often) she gets the worst attitude about her. If looks could kill, is have been dead long ago. She gets the more hateful eyes, stares you down, purses her lips, crosses her ARM and just shoots daggars at you with her whole body language. She will refuse to speak to you or aknowledge that anyone is speaking to her. If you saw an adult doing this same behavior, you would be afraid for your safety, its not a little kid pouty kind of a thing. This is like pure seething hatred.

Just some example:
Saturday it was $5 admission day at the local science/childrens museum, so I took the kids. We saw an IMAX movie and spend over 4 hours playing at the kids museum. At this point I was getting tired (35 weeks pregnant, so a half day out is about it for me) and bs2 was tired and would need a nap soon, and it was past lunch time. So I said let's go, its time for lunch. Apparently half a day want good enough for the princess so insteatly out comes skank-face. We are all talking about what our favorite parts were, ect ect.... Nothing from her. Catching glimpses of her in the rear view driving home, she had that nasty attitude all the way home.

Sunday my inlaws took the skids to church and then back to their apt til my Dh got off work. Their disabled aunt offered to take them to the complex's swimming pool. But once there tells them that they can't go into the deep end (those aunt is physically disabled, one leg only partially function and one arm/hand o.ly functions as a helper hand). SS accepts this restriction and goes to play. SD on the other hand feels this is beneath her. Aunt explains that she can barely swim herself, and that if something was to happen she wouldn't be able to save them with only one arm. SD continues to pout, have attitude and generally be a nasty person. Aunt removes both kids from the pool and goes back to the apt.

I have quasi-disengaged from SD already, so I generally just ignore this attitude. Figured that if she didn't get the reaction she was looking for, shed knock it off. And when I did address it, I got no where... She just had more of a reason to dispise me (since I was disiplining her). She's not really saying anything, or doing anything...... So I am really at a loss as to what to do. I am so embarrassed that she would do this to her disabled aunt and have no remorse at all. Nothing is ever good enough for this kid, she's always this victim in her mind....getting bent out of shape over nothing.

Instead of being happy or greatful that she got to go to the museum and the pool last weekend.... She is seething with rage over how she didn't get more.