Had it. Just had it.
I have just had it with SD11. I just am getting to where I cannot freaking stand her.
1)She is CONSTANTLY a total spoiled smart-ass to me when DH isn't around....and he DOES NOT BELIEVE ME when I tell him of her behavior. He's started to believe me now that she's doing it to him some, too, but it's SO much worse to me when he's at work and she's acting hateful. I know she's at that age but it's CLEAR her behavior is all aimed at me.
2)I am sick and tired of her doing this whole "I loooove you dadddyyy!!" (with an overly long hug) while staring straight at me with a hateful look--she's doing it to show that daddddy is hers I guess. It's so annoying.
3)I've had it with her ridiculous lack of hygiene. She REFUSES to put on deodorant...I mean I'll tell her to go put it on, and she'll freaking pretend to put it on but won't! Same with brushing teeth. She wears dirty socks frequently even though she has clean ones in her drawer. She doesn't use any toilet paper and doesn't flush the damn toilet. I mean it's an outright refusal to do these things. She stinks all the dog gone time...but SHAME ON ME if I point it out to her because if I do, DH tells me to quit being "mean". You know, if she was a little kid I'd attribute it to her being a little kid, but jeez she's 11 and a middle schooler!!!
4)She just needs to grow up! She does NOT act like most 11 year olds. Most 11 year olds kind of want to do their own thing, want to have some independence. She spends the night at her grandma's houses and not only sleeps in grandma's bed with her but spoons with her and falls asleep that way...doesn't anyone but me see that as WEIRD that an 11 year old who HAS HER OWN ROOM at grandma's, with a tv in it even, would rather spoon and cuddle with grandma?
I just can't stand her. I just can't. She won't grow up, she stinks to high heavens, and I'm just sick of her.
This sounds just like our
This sounds just like our house. If I ask those things of our SD7, my DW tells me I'm being critical, mean, hard on her, etc. It has nothing to do with SD being disgusting, of course.
^^This....do this.
^^This....do this.
My SD is the same way. She
My SD is the same way. She would rather not take a bath than take one and her daddy knows this. Hes on her all the time over this..my BDS aren't and never have been like that..reason I say that is cause dh said it was just the age thing..I said nope u have older daughters and younger ones and they weren't that way..
I agree with the above pots,
I agree with the above pots, we had the same with my DS now 21 and SD now 19. They never brushed their teeth, nor used soap or TP. I would walk in the room and it was obvious that my SD was on her period by looking at the toilet seat. I never cleaned it, if you want to live like that and sit on that, more power to you. I never had to buy soap for their rooms since it was never used. They will only change their behavior when peers start to make fun. I had brought it to my husband's attention and he said it was not up to him, they will learn from their peers. Re: his SD he did not feel comfortable talking to her and asked me to do it, I said something once, it did not go well so never again. I also told her to stop taking her feminine products out in her room and put in her garbage, that she needed to do that in the bathroom. She didn't, ok you want to live with that smell in your room, go for it.
DISENGAGE!!
Web cams will solve this
Web cams will solve this behavioral problem. Document her behavior for daddy to see. When she gets in your face with it a firm backhanded pop of your fingers to her snarky lips will ge the point across. Daddy needs to step up and spank her snarky kid but IMHO and if he won't you should.
As for the hygiene .... do not tolerate it. When my SS was going through his version of this phase we would leave him in the car when we went out for dinner. I would not tolerate a stinky kid with us. 11 is old enough to sit in the car alone while we have dinner.
All IMHO of course.