I understand including skids but saying vows to them ....... nope.

When my husband purposed to me and after I said yes i looked down and his daughter was In Tears like I was marrying her. 3 years later after perposal and wedding..here the fk I am. LoL at first it melted my heart of the 'how sweet" factor but then the mini wife symdrome crap that comes with that. It's weird because on our anniversary , she celebrated! She took all our honey moon pictures of just him and made a Father's Day Instagram video. I don't know what to think about all that. As far as this man promising a little girl that won't remember shit. What if the couple divorced an he remarried. Yep, I'm dealing with that too. My husband was married to that woman only a year and out of guilt he still gets the little girl birthday and Christmas gifts. That little girl that's 13 now said she doesn't feel right about callig him dad or her other step dad her mom recently divorced dad. I can just imagine what is going through her head. She doesn't like me because I'm just not her mom and her mom is t happy. So yeah, you should never promise a child anything.

This is what bm and her fiancé are doing! I think it's so weird! The boys were in our wedding but they are basically revolving the whole ceremony around them and how fiancé loves them SO much and is going to be the bestest stepdaddy in the world!!! He involved them in the proposal too. Then they wondered why the kids cried when they told them they weren't taking them on the honeymoon. Oh but they're going to have their own special "family" honeymoon.

This crap pisses me off because if I had done this or any stepmom, people would be crying "oh the poor mom! This evil woman is trying to steal the kids away!" When it's a guy, though, he's so noble to "step up to the plate", because of course dad must be a jerk who does nothing for the kids. Bm tells people this all the time, about how amazing her fiancé is for stepping up. Umm. They are with us all the time, Dh is at everything and pays you over 1,000 a month. Yeah. Good for stepdad. He's so amazing.

When we got married, April 2014, we didn't even have them there! JUST US! NO KIDS! NO IN LAWS! NO FAMILY! PERFECT! And yes, it was a WEDDING! Then we ran away to New Orleans for our honeymoon!

When SO and I got engaged MIL shortly after was telling SO about something she had saw where the SM included the SD in the vows. She told me how cute it was. I made it clear I would not be doing that. SD has a mom, why do I need to included her in my marriage vows. As another poster said, it's not like I am going to make promises to my own son in my vows.

When I was planning the wedding, I kept hearing how all the SDs wanted was to be flower girls. First off one of the SDs is as tall as I am, secondly I didn't even want flower girls. I initally thought ok fine, I'll let them all, including my daughter be junior bridesmaids, they threw a fit, they wanted to be flower girls.

So all in all, I called DH one day and said let's get married saturday in our backyard. That's what we did. My kids were there, one of the sd's was there because BM was pulling tricks and saying the youngest wasn't feeling well. BM wanted to come to our wedding, she said she'd drive them both to the wedding and then home. BM YOU ARE NOT INVITED.

So BM and the youngest stayed at home, BM thought we'd just reschedule so she could be there. NOPE!

If DH had tried this bull on his or my kids, it would have been a 2 second dash---GONE.

This does remind me. I bought my skid high heels for my wedding. Her first heels two years ago. BM gets a boyfriend and it's all of a sudden he bought her her first heels. I said wtf I bought you your first heels. She said that's different. How is it different?!? Those Awww so sweet moments grow up and become hemroids

Sick! This video is ridiculous. Marriage is about TWO people who fall in love. No one else matters on that day. I made sure for my wedding it was all about DH and I. SD7 was one of the flower girls which was a perfect job for her that day.

The "I'm becoming your parent now" nonsense drives me nuts. There are jewelry commercials and internet videos popping up about it.

I bet this lady in the video has an ex who is an involved father and the step-dad speech was completely unwarranted. Can you imagine the comments if a step-mom did a speach like this? "Who does that lady think she is, that girl has a mom", "Why is she trying to "play" happy family with that little girl", "That lady is NOT THE NEW MOM".