This is the deal: yup - we are in massachusetts

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Well BM told DH after only 5-6 weeks that SS moved in with her full time that she wants to keep him full time and wants to re-do their agreement.
Of course she said - oh - it will be easy!!! The custody changes for 1 of the 2 kids from 50% to 100% with her. He is 16. He works part-time.

She has managed to keep her income hidden and low. I would estimate she will disclose she makes a Honey Boo Boo grand score of $10k a year. DH makes about $125k a year. Of course DH already pays $1500 a month, full health and dental and $100 a month he has to put in college fund for kids AND he has to buy 50% of their clothing too which actually ends up him buying almost ALL Their clothing becuz she refuses to use the support for that.

Anyone have any idea what he is going to get screwed for? Any angles to this that can help us? This woman is such a POS and it disgusts me that we both work so hard and educated and trained ourselves over the years.

Smh. I don't have much advice

Smh. I don't have much advice for you, but I can sympathize with you! DH doesn't pay CS because we have SD almost all the time, but BM refuses to work or else she works somewhere that will pay her under the table so she doesn't lose her state assistance and enormous tax refund. It's a shame the bigger of a loser you are, the more you are rewarded in life.

I would definitely talk to a lawyer about this. If it were me, I would make my DH get it put in writing (CO) that what he pays will stay the same. If BM won't agree to that, then I would just not go forward with skid staying with her full time. You only have 2 more years before you are off the hook with dealing with BM. Don't let her screw you now!

Well... Child support IS an

Well... Child support IS an issue. It's one of the biggest issues in a custody dispute.. Many people (like the BM in my situation) will keep custody 50/50 even when that is NOT in the best interest of the child, just so they don't have to pay CS.

It took my SD's BM 4 years to agree to let DH have her full time- & the only reason she agreed is because DH told her he wouldn't go after her for CS.

Anyway OP, you should definitely consult a lawyer on this one to make sure you get the best possible legal advice!

No, We are not looking to

No, We are not looking to backtrack now. SS had to leave. DH is a terrific dad that loves his kids and that is why he wanted 50% to begin with. BM wanted her cake and to eat it too. She left him for another man and wanted to make her new little family minus the BF. Well - DH has done well but BM has made sure to poison alienate undermine and bad mouth DH to the point of total maniuplation that is all under the radar. The fear tactics and emotional abuse will never be proven. It is a bad situation.

We are not even touchign the

We are not even touchign the PAS. We met with attorney 3 years ago that said "don't bother" you can next prove this. So we are well beyond the PAS thing. As far as backpeddling on CS. DH pays a VERY HIGH amount right now along with full health and dental and life insurance and college funding each month into an account and it is UNREAL. SO YES, we had no choice but to offer to this young man to leave as he was leaving poop on my personal stuff and doing most awful stuff and asking DH what he made for a salary 3 times in the couple weeks before he pushed us enough to offer him the choice to leave. This was planned and we are victims here. The kids is a victim or pawn in this but we tried to break the cycle with legally requested counseling 2 years ago and the counselor couldn't even get the truth of the PAS'ing going on. A complete disaster of a situation. So YES, we are going to want to make the CS FAIR. Woman that intentionally don't work - ski and boat and are married to someone making over 6 figures a year should not be collecting a high mortgage payment equiv. in CS from their x husband that they chose to leave for another man. You don't know what you are talking about in regards to ruckus. This isn't just a ruckus. This is injustice. People that do nothing but love the kids and give them everything they need and a very maniuplative BM has continued on her path of lying, cheating, sneaking around - so yeah - we are going to find out our options and hope the judge makes her pay for SOMETHING. We are buying these kids clothing and paying support!!!! I can't tell you how much we provide to a woman that couldn't give to craps.