:jawdrop: That is so ridiculous! What is his problem? Does he know how pathetic that is?

I don't even know what to say.

Maybe DH should have "planned better"

As another poster said -- inducing at 37 weeks? Ridiculous! Induction before mom/baby are ready can (and often will) result in arrested labor, failure of the baby to descend, undue stress on the baby (aka fetal distress), and ending up in a c-section. Trust me, I did extensive research on the subject of inductions.

Gee, I want MY OWN month too. Unfortunately I have to share it with Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and New Year's Eve. Damn my parents for not planning better....

I see this as a big problem with your DH - I just don't get the whole SD/DH connection and thank God I never will have to deal with it - I have a SS. He needs to grow up and realize that all of his kids are equal - we all get it shoved down our throats all the time that our skids are just as important as our bios so he needs to realize that his kids with you are just as important.

I would also tell him that I am 7 months pregnant and saying something like that to me really hurts and if he says it again I would not be responsible for the beatdown he will get. I am serious if my DH had ever said something like that to me would piss me off but also worry me about his state of mind regarding his daughter. I mean really to suggest that you induce early so that your sons can share a birthday but not his daughter in his mind your family is separate and always will be so no matter what you do to try and join it will not work because he thinks his daughter is the best. Believe me as she gets older and she realizes that she is the most important to him I guarantee you will be on here complaining that you feel like she is the second wife - you need to tell him how much this hurts you and he needs to stop - also if he did not want to have 2 children in the month of May then he should have abstained from having sex with you 9 months before!!! Good luck with this one!!

I claim the month of July. No other babies may be born in July and all others who have birthdays in July should now cease to exist. Then I shall be a special unique snowflake with a whole month to myself.

:sick:

Obviously, I'm being sarcastic but seriously, that's got to be one of the most absurd and ridiculous statements I've heard in regards to putting your child on a pedastal. You've got way more tolerance than me. The first time that would have come out of someone's mouth, it would have been a day they rued they opened their mouth at all.

He's got some serious princess issues. My thoughts go out to you.

I'm pretty sure the next time he says it, I would have a response ready that expresses how ridiculous I think his "idea" is.

"Gosh DH, what about all those other birthdays in May? What shall we do about those? I mean we can avoid having new baby born in May by risking his and my health by inducing early, but there is still all those other horrible people who dared be born in May"

Then I'd call him a dumb ass and tell him princess gets a birthDAY not a birth MONTH. And I'd call her princess too very sarcastically.

People need to be called out for their stupidity. They get away with it far too often.

Ehh, in some ways I can understand but from the other side. If and when I have a baby with FDH, I don't want it to be in the same month as SS. I may be selfish for thinking that, but I don't want to have a chance that SS will overshadow our child (especially since so many bioparents end up feeling guilty and so do the grandparents.)

It's so one of the reasons I don't want to get married during any of the months with holidays. November is Thanksgiving, December is Xmas and my father's birthday, Jan is New Years and my grandpa's birthday and Chinese new years, Feb is Valentines day, FDH and FMIL's birthdays, March is still a bit too cold, April is easter and my mother's birthday, June is my birthday, July is my sister's birthday, August is a bit too hot, September is too late, October is SS's birthday.

So I picked May as our wedding month. It's just too much to plan and organize otherwise, as well as financially it is less feasible for the other months because we're spending money on everyone else.

March or June would probably be when I'd plan to give birth when we try for a baby for the same reasons listed above.

However, I do NOT agree with how your DH has handled things, I think he should have thought about it beforehand instead of bringing it up now. That's just tactless and rude, especially when there's such a health risk and double standard. If he didn't want it on either your first bio's or your SD's month, I guess I can understand the sentiment (but NOT HIS SUGGESTION FOR INDUCTION), but this is clearly a case of favoritism.

Our BM had herself induced because she wanted SO to be there on the day of. Sat in labor for 2-3 days. Freakin' idiot.

So, according to your husband, the Month of May is ONLY reserved for his kid?

So, does this mean that every other child born in the month of MAY needs to move their birthday also? :O

Put the blame on him. Tell him if he hadn't had sex with you in August or September, this wouldn't have happened. Tell him that in the future, he is not allowed to have sex with you in either of those months, because of the chance of you having another baby in MAY! It's HIS fault you are pregnant and having a baby in May.

If this baby was planned, it is HIS fault for not realizing that he shouldn't have gotten you pregnant in August or September - if he didn't want a baby in May.

What an idiot!

WTH? My two oldest were born in Jan my two youngest were born in Sept (It wasn't planned that way I swear!) and I have never thought this way about it before! He sounds ridiculous.

I don't have any explanation for your husband's temporary lack of brain cells, but just wanted to share that my due date is May 10

Hi Peasnutandsons. Looks like the lessons we learned in Kindergarten have been forgotten and/or misplaced by SD and DH.

Refresher courses are a good thing.

The alternative would be sweeping the driveway and sidewalk with toothbrushes.

Rule number one: Princesses are OK, but there is ONLY ONE QUEEN.

Rule number two:

ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN

All I really need to know about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school.

These are the things I learned:

Share everything.
Play fair.
Don't hit people.
Put things back where you found them.
Clean up your own mess.
Don't take things that aren't yours.
Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.
Wash your hands before you eat.
Flush.
Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
Live a balanced life - learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.
Take a nap every afternoon.
When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together.
Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup - they all die. So do we.
And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned - the biggest word of all - LOOK.

Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation. Ecology and politics and equality and sane living.

Take any one of those items and extrapolate it into sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your family life or your work or government or your world and it holds true and clear and firm. Think what a better world it would be if we all - the whole world - had cookies and milk at about 3 o'clock in the afternoon and then lay down with our blankies for a nap. Or if all governments had as a basic policy to always put things back where they found them and to clean up their own mess.

And it is still true, no matter how old you are, when you go out in the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.
[Source: "ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN" by Robert Fulghum.

Take good care, sweetie. May 1 is an AWESOME date.

Sorry, too fast. I meant May 12.

Gee...I got royally screwed then...my little brother was born ON my birthday and in May!!!!!

:jawdrop: You have got to be kidding. (The words that are rolling around in my head are not appropriate to post online.) I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this.

Perhaps you should suggest that, should you new son have the poor judgment to be born on his due date during the Princesses' birth month, you should put the baby up for adoption and then plan another one to come along at a more convenient time for her? }:)

That is just sad, so sad. If it were me and I were pregnant and the baby's dad said that to me, even as a half joke, I would just cry for what would be my future and that poor unborn child's. That baby will pick up on the fact that daddy loves the first one more. Why don't you announce to daddy that if the baby comes in May, his skid daughter will have to have her birth certificate changed to another month, because obviously, the new baby will be more important and deserves a month all to itself. See how far his jaw drops.

PeanutandSons,

Sorry to inform you of this but you are going to have to let your DH know that I was also born on May 1 and I was born first. So unfortunately for him and SD, May is my month.

How would he feel if the baby was born during his birth month? Would he be jealous and upset because HIS special time would be over shadowed by the baby's?