BM's BF Wants to Hang Out with my DH
Just found out that BM's BF wants to go hunting with my DH, who is an avid hunter.
Kind of odd to me..what do you all think?
BM has cheated on this man numerous times..and on the surface from what I can see..he's a really nice guy.
I honestly am tired of the BM being shoved down my throat and I really don't understand what the BF could do to enrich my DH's life by hanging out with him. Like I couldn't understand what it would do for me to hang out with my ex husband's new wife.
What for?
I can only guess he's having troubles with her once again and feels he needs to talk to my DH about it. DH has told him a few times in the past to run and run fast. She has cheated on him with a guy that physically abuses her and is not shy about it. Yet he takes it and stays with her. She's called the cops on him..and just treats him like crap.
Kind of confused on this one...BM does feel she and my DH are close yet my DH can't stand her. So why would he think about hanging out with the BF? DH is sort of out of sorts about it and not sure how to handle it.
Thoughts?
My thoughts are pretty much
My thoughts are pretty much on the same page, Mom.
I tell you what - drama follows the BM. And I'm sure it follows BF as well due to having to put up with it.
It's a shame really..the times I've talked to this man and his teen daughters..they are ALL as sweet as all get out. I find myself feeling VERY sorry for the 3 of them for having BM in their lives. I just want to grab them and run. But - if he stays, he stays. As to which he does. Such a shame because he's a handsome man who has a lot going for him. He just must have major self esteem issues. And my DH says he understands the hold she carries over him, for she was the same way with him.
Last thing I want is the BM having ANY open door in our marriage..which could be used by having my DH hanging out with the BF. Does that make sense?
I can see why BF would want
I can see why BF would want to hang out with DH. Maybe BF thinks DH has some words of wisdom on dealing with BM.
What I can't really see is why DH would feel like he wanted to hang out with BM. I mean, if DH is an avid hunter, he surely has other hunting buddies that aren't currently knocking the bottom out of the woman that made his life a living hell for a period of time.
To me, it's just not a complication that I'd be real happy with. What I would be concerned about would be that if BF and DH start hanging, BM might want to start hanging out and being friendly with DH, or worse...*gulp*...YOU. If that happened to me, on 2/3 of my BM fronts, I would have to seriously consider moving out of the country. There's only so much crazy I can deal with, and we're full up on it around here as it is.
I'm sorry, but the first
I'm sorry, but the first thing that came into my head after reading this was: Dick Cheney...... LOL
I agree with sueu2's statement that DH and bm's BF hanging out would make her too close for comfort. JMO.
Spending time with the XW's
Spending time with the XW's BF when guns are involved does not sound like a good idea to me. It is probably harmless but why take the risk that XW has an unknown life insurance policy taken out on your DH.
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