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I do not quite understand -
I do not quite understand - is this a question you are wanting us to respond to?
I'm trying to understand too.
I'm trying to understand too. Are you saying your sd takes all information to her mom that's not true. She takes pictures of inside your house and you are thinking of getting cameras? Is that the question? If so, let her take pictures unless you have something to hide. I wouldn't let her take any pictures of you. I hate when my SD records me. I have told her over and over, not too record me. If you get cameras..I wouldn't put any in her private domain and record her getting dressed and undressed, That would be wrong.
It's hard to take their
It's hard to take their phones away when they are 11 and 13 going on 21 and DH trying to keep the piece. This is something I am dealing with too.
Rags, I just spewed coffee
Rags, I just spewed coffee onto my keyboard!!
I understand you not wanting
I understand you not wanting BM to have access to your home. She has no right knowing what you have or where you have it. But the sad truth is until your DH puts his foot down and stops SD she will do what she wants. By stopping her I mean taking her phone while she's in your house, letting her know that behavior will not be tolerated.
I have gotten to the point where I will discuss nothing infront of my skids because they tell everything. It sucks, you have to put up with this woman and she keeps finding ways to invade your life.
Make sure that your birth
Make sure that your birth certificate and anything that has your SS is locked away. For some reason DH Ex went out of her mind crazy for my personal info for YEARS. whenever her kids are in my home, which is very infrequent now that they are adults, my personal info goes into a safe.
BM even recruited her daughter in this crusade. She once insisted to DH that she needed MY SS # in order to file HER (SD) taxes....... Wha?.....
BM is gaining knowledge about YOUR life and knowledge is a powerful tool.
We redacted the tax forms,
We redacted the tax forms, then the following year his Ex sent an email saying that blacking out my info was illegal.....
He responded that reacting wasn't illegal and if she wished to,pursue to have her lawyer send a demand and he would address it in court.
She responded that it simply wasn't fair that I had access to her information and she deserved to have mine.
With his ex it was never about what was actually legal, it was all about what her mind told her was fair.
By that time the skids were adults so she was ignored. A couple of years later he ano I returned from a trip while skids were visiting and a receipt folder was out and open on the office desk...... No one would admit to going through our files. From that point on I locked away anything that had my info on it. I also moved all legal and tax documents from the home computer onto a hard drive that I could also lock in the safe.
Then 3 years ago my SD texted her dad asking for MY SS #. Luckily, he was on a trip out of the country, I had his cell phone and I answered back asking her why as if it were him. She spun off a tale of nonsense and later when he skyped me from his IPad I called her up to personally address the issue. Whenever I speak to SD I always make sure that her father hears everything. She leans towards the dramatic.
Thank you
Thank you
If BM is recruiting you also
If BM is recruiting you also want to watch if you drink your drinks seperate like out of a 2 liter bottle. Or if you share a bathroom and your make up and toothbrush. Don't think for a minute they won't take your tooth brush and wipe the toilet.
I found my resume on her lap
I found my resume on her lap top
My skid took photos of our
My skid took photos of our home and put them on her Instagram with mean comments, snide, unkind things making out we are white trash. I had made a birthday cake for FDH last year but at the last minute had no birthday candles, so I put one of our larger taper candles into the cake. We all thought it was cute and fun. Then SD16 added it to her Instagram to show her friends how "stupid and pathetic" I am. So hurtful.
And that's when DH would be
And that's when DH would be forevermore visiting with SD at a restaurant, a park, a museum. But her butt would not enter my home again. Not without a written apology for her childish behavior in hand and her cell being placed in a storage box until her departure.