This is me venting as a BM but I see this same complaint a lot ABOUT BM's. This is about BS8's dad.

I'm not surprised by any of the lies. He was a liar when we were together. I'm not surprised his lies are usually about money. As he lied about money when we were together. I also had to "nag" him to pay his half of the bills in the household. Every.Single.Month. And I should not be surprised that he lies to our son. When we split up he was big on PAS and lying to our son. He had NO ISSUES with telling a 5 year old terrible things about his mother (me) when it fact it was HIM that had the issues (abusive, alcoholic, drugs).

Currently my Ex and I get along for the sake of BS. He lives 45 minutes away, doesn't see him much, doesn't pay child support ($8,500 behind), has actually only paid $900 in CS in the past 2 years. He doesn't contribute in any way to the day to day stuff of raising a kid. He gets BS every 4-6 weeks (sometimes longer) and then spoils him over the weekend and then BS comes back home.

Ex lies to BS about stupid stuff. I know they are lies because I know Ex.

Here are some of the recent lies:

- No money for our vacation because I can't access the bank, tried several times to get my money out, but the bank was having an issue, I had like $1000 in there too. We could have done so much fun stuff. I have been saving that money for our vacation too!

- Last year it was a similar lie "Oh I had money for vacation but the cat had to get emergency surgery, so that is where the money went.

Ex and BS go and see ExMIL in another state for spring break. All paid for by ExMIL. Every year Ex tells BS they are going to do all these awesome things but then something always "comes up" and he doesn't have the money.

- It was really windy and the mailman left your birthday gifts on the front porch and they blew away.

Yes this was an actual lie that Ex told BS in response to why he didnt have a birthday gift for him.

He constantly lies about sending money to child support or his intentions to.

-Can't get a stamp, can't get a money order, can't get a ride to the post office.

Twice "his friends" have stolen stuff from his house including electronics of BS's. But I have a feeling that he actually pawned them off for money. Yet BS always tells the story "My dad's friend stole my DVD player. Stole my DS game, stole my movies."

Normally I dont let this crap bother me. I know who he is and what he does. I think he has some serious mental issues and believes what he lies about. I truly do.

But I am just so sick of sitting back and keeping my mouth shut. He doesnt do jack for our BS. He tells all these lies to BS and one day soon BS is going to realize his dad is a big fat liar. I feel really bad for BS because he idolizes his dad.

This really started to bother me when Ex picked up BS the other day and I noticed he had new tennis shoes. Now of course I have no idea if he paid for them or not or if they were a gift and it's none of my business but I am thinking- Got money for new shoes but can't even help with your son.

I'm more worried about how this behavior is going to affect BS when he gets older and can see who his dad really is. I do feel sorry for my Ex. I have pity for him in that his life is such a mess. The way I see it anyways.

Thanks for letting me vent......