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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 10/05/2016 - 6:54am

Today is mine and DH's 3 year wedding anniversary. Smile

I can honestly say for us, things have gotten better over the years. This past year was actually really good with very little skid drama. Or we have just learned to better cope and deal. LOL.

Our first year was the hardest and I actually thought I had made a mistake. But honestly I think I went into our wedding day thinking- WTH am I doing because I was still dealing with the skids drama and caught up with their drama.

I think for me, learning when to just keep my mouth shut, disengaging, picking my battles and just wanting our marriage to work, has made things so much better. DH and I have learned more about each other and what bothers us and what makes us unhappy and we have worked on those things together.

It definitely helps that the skids are older. We still have my BS11 in the house and thankfully he loves and respects DH, so it makes things easier. It's not always perfect with that but we just work through stuff.

The closer DH and I become and the more we become a unit over time, the less I feel "threatened" by the drama of the skids. I don't know if I just feel more secure in my relationship with DH or if I have just learned to deal with the skids drama better (maturity)but it's made things better.

Today we are going to dinner at The Melting Pot Smile I told DH NO GIFTS, just a nice card. I hope he follows through with that because I did not get him a gift. LOL.

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Submitted by NoWireCoatHanga... on Wed, 10/05/2016 - 6:58am

Happy anniversary!!!!!!!!!!!! I love the Melting Pot. It's so romantic. We don't have one in my town anymore but it was my go to spot for prom night and all my birthdays and my ex husband even proposed to me there. The one in the neighboring town to the South of me closed in December. I made the hour drive and I took my girls right around Christmas. We did a horse and carriage through the town with the holiday lights and did an outside ice skating rink (it was really just plastic cause this is Florida) and we went into the Melting pot and it was a very special night. Melting Pot is definitely dear to me.

I think you guys are going to make it!

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 10/05/2016 - 8:31am

I do have a pair of crotchless leather undies that I got for my bridal shower that I can wear under my dress tonight. Ha ha.

I told DH no gifts. (though I tell him that every year and I have gotten diamond stud earrings and a beautiful ruby/diamond ring that matches an heirloom necklace that my grandma left me when she passed.)

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 10/05/2016 - 8:37am

so that's the secret.... from now on I will tell SO - no gifts }:)

mmm crotchless leather undies - he can have that as a gift...

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Submitted by Countrymom on Wed, 10/05/2016 - 11:49am

Happy Anniversary!

Mine and DH's 3 year anniversary is in exactly 2 weeks!

Awesome that ya'll are doing better! Unfortunately for me, this has been our hardest year yet. Not only do I still have issues with SS6, but DH has been more difficult and my MIL has been a bigger pain in the @$$! I really hope it gets better for us too, or I'm not sure if we'll make it to our 4th.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 10/05/2016 - 12:58pm

I hope everything works out for you guys. Thankfully 3/4 skids are adults and 1 lives out of state, 1 we don't talk to at all and MIL lives out of state. I think all of that helps for sure.

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Wed, 10/05/2016 - 2:47pm

Happy Anniversary, Zero!!

And when did your son turn ELEVEN? In my mind, he's still nine.

I'm glad you and your DH are growing into a healthier place. He reminds me of a younger version of my own DH. Like you, I am the healthiest relationship my guy has ever been in, and it took some time to overcome the unhealthy behaviors he was used to. We recently celebrated our own anniversary (20+), and when I think back, the first two years were spent going toe to toe. He wanted me to accept dysfunction, and I wanted better for us both. Luckily, he upped his game.

Your DH got a second chance with you, and I'm sure he knows it. Wishing you many more happy years, Zero!

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 10/06/2016 - 6:51am

Thank you! This made me smile Smile

Next thing I know BS is going to be driving... time flies when you're having fun.