I have been thinking of a plan for months for NOT attending MSD's graduation.

The reasons I will not be attending:(some legit and some petty)

I have been to 2/4 skids graduations

They last for a very long time, large senior class, have to park far and walk, crowded, etc

DH refused to attend my niece's graduation with me and it kind of had me upset since I had went to 2 of his kids graduations and I am VERY close to my niece

DH has been very distance from my BS lately and basically refuses to attend any soccer games, or anything extra that he has going on

I dont want to see BM, YSD, MSD

I am disengaged and would rather poke my eyes out then attend the graduation... I just could care less about MSD and this milestone.

But DH is going to try to talk me into it. It's like he can't attend anything on his own when it comes to his kids.

I am planning on going out of town the night before and staying with a friend. I will then come back to town the next day. (day of graduation).

Im pretty sure that DH has no idea what the exact date of the graduation is. And as with all things with the skids it won't be brought up until last minute.

So when he tells me about it I will just say that I am going out of town. But I also want to state some of the main reasons why I am not attending.

I feel like I am letting him off the hook but just saying I am going out of town. I want him to know my reasons. But at the same time, if he is even dumb enough to think he can convince me to attend, he is going to be too dumb to understand my reasons.

Would you just say you are going out of town or would you discuss the issues?

I feel like in DH's mind I always have something to complain/bitch/whine/moan about. BUT if he would just talk to me and help me work through some of these things or not blow me off when I try to talk about them, then maybe I wouldnt have so many complaints.