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Kind of confused about this.....hmmmmm

zerostepdrama's picture

OSD21 called DH last week. First time they have talked in probably 16 months. I am 99% sure of this.

I sent GB an Xmas gift. http://www.steptalk.org/node/172450 So I am pretty sure that this is why OSD was calling.

Now normally I would ask about the call because I am nosey. However I am trying to keep my mouth shut. Plus I am sure that I would pull something negative out of anything that DH tells me. So all I said was "I am glad you got to talk to OSD as I know it has been a long time" DH responds back with "I know it's been like 6 months". Okay it's been A LOT longer then that, but whatever makes you feel better DH. (and yes I am 99.9% sure of the last time DH talked to OSD)

So I waited for him to mention that OSD got the package I sent and a Thanks. Nope.... probably because she never thanked him.... or he wasn't thankful that I went out and got his GB a Xmas gift...but meh, I knew that it wouldnt be appreciated...whatever...moving on....

Here is what is kind of weird to me and I am trying to understand.

Sunday DH and I are laying in bed watching tv and a text comes through. The phone is right by me and his texts scroll at the top and I see clearly its from OSD and I see "the shirt you got him" as its scrolling.

So I pass the phone to DH, he reads it and then puts his phone back down. Umm okay.. I am pretty sure it's a pick of GB with one of the shirts we sent and that is what OSD is texting him. Yet DH doesnt show me the pic or anything. Or even mention it. I would think this is something he would share with me.

So I ask "Who was that?"
DH- OSD
Me- Oh anything interesting
DH- No

Okay so I am thinking I am pretty sure what it is but there is no reason to act like it's a secret so maybe the text has more to it and he doesn't want me to see it. Which of course makes me want to see it now.

So later I look at his phone (because I am nosey. Had I asked right then, he would have let me look, but I wanted to process alone anything that might have been said).

And it's just a pic of GB in the shirt and text says "the shirt you got him".

I am so confused as to why DH didnt share the pic with me.

I bought the shirt.
There has been no mention of the shirt being recieved.
It's just a pic of the baby in the shirt.

I just dont get why DH acted like it was some secret. I know this isn't a big deal (at all) and I am probably over thinking.... But it's kind of annoying.

Does anyone else's DH do this?

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whatwasithinkin's picture

Mine is an exact copy. Unless I ask and even if I ask here is an example of a recent coversation see if it sounds familiar.

SD17 moved out in July to MIL. I disengaged from her a yer prior and told both her and her Dad I was done. And I was from that point forward I did nothing for her. Now I didnt get petty, I still grocery shopped and her personal needs were taken care of but buy her gifts, give her rides, answer things like can I do this or that...nope all that shit went to Daddy.

SD17 went and got herself a drivers license permit with the inlaws. I know because SD14 told me when she was here for visitation. I ask DH.

Me:since when did SD17 get a permit.
DH: oh my Dad took her last week
Me: ok DH who's car is she driving and who is paying for her to be in insurance because although it may not be mandatory, if SD is out driving with MIL and has an accident MIL insurance may not cover it has anyone asked? And since SD17 is not MY child yet I carry her on my medical insurance and she turns 18 on Dec 27 I am going to have to provide proof of residency. So do you know if she used your mothers address or ours because if she used MIL I will have to drop her from my health insurance.
DH: I dont know I will find out.

1 week Me: ok DH whats the deal with the permit, insurance and the address?
2 weeks Me: see above
3 weeks Me: see above

Week 4
Me: DH did you find out about what address SD17 used on her license? (I made a mistake and said license but watch the answer)
DH: SD17 doesnt have a license.
Me: really DH ok let me rephrase that Im sorry I made an error. What address did SD17 use for her permit?
DH MIL
Me: ok what about car insurance?
DH SD said dont worry about it she will handle it.
Me: so did you tell SD17 that she will likely lose her medical benefits when they ask for proof of residency?
DH: no well I didnt tell her that.

This is how conversations go when it comes to her. I think I am going to send him an email today telling him my company wants proof of residency, they havent asked for it yet but it is coming....

I am gonna drop her ass like a hot potatoe

zerostepdrama's picture

Im not so sure it's a "secret" as opposed to just withholding information.

My thought as to why he may withhold the text is he is thinking I may say something negative about OSD or ask if she said thanks....

ETS: OSD not MSD

zerostepdrama's picture

I dont plan on doing anything like that again. Just because of her response when I asked for her address and I never got a please or thank you.

I just find it so weird that DH didnt mention the picture she sent via text. I dont see how that could even stir an agurement.

But really anymore...anything can cause a rift between us when it comes to his kids.... so maybe he just didnt want to start anything...even as innocent as the picture was.

Moving on............... Smile