Tired of paying & paying ...
Have been married to DH for 11 years. For the first 7 we/he paid $3000 a month in alimony & child support. Fast forward to the present ... still paying support for one kid SS16, the other SS20 my DH is paying rent on a fancy schmancy condo in Toronto so his highness has all the conveniences that SM (who fornicates with DH) doesn't even have. To top it off he is living in our house this summer while the fancy condo sits empty until it's time to go back to college. (grrrrrrrrr)
My husband owns his own company. A business associate assumed (like everyone) that we have a pool, hot tub, cottage, etc. No we have none of that BUT BM has breast implants, a nice long trip to Italy, and who knows what else she has pissed the support money away on.
I am SOOO tired of all this.
If you're thinking of marrying someone with kids and a nasty ex - please think twice about getting involved. As much as you love him are you really willing to struggle while a good portion of your income goes to some whining b**ch who has the potential to make your lives a living hell???
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I know how you feel. My FDH
I know how you feel. My FDH pays $1500 in child support each month AND the mortgage on his ex's house. There is no clause in the decree that stipulates an end date, what happens if she remarries, etc.
So, she can conceivably re-marry, have 5 more kids and WE will make the house payment for the next 30 years. That’s right - this obligation does not end with child support, it is essentially lifetime alimony. What kind of stupid dumb ass makes a deal like that? Oh wait, my fiancee' :jawdrop:
legally hes only on the hook
legally hes only on the hook for as long as they were married. it would be worth the court costs to fight that.
If I could do it all over
If I could do it all over again, I wouldn't.
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Holy Shit!!!! That fucking
Holy Shit!!!! That fucking sucks so bad!!! Reading posts like this make me feel so grateful that I have a BF that is NOTHING like that and would NEVER do that!!!
I feel like I should never complain again...you ladies and your stories really shut me up sometimes....
Yeah ... DH can go fornicate
Yeah ... DH can go fornicate with himself. LOLs
My parents have been divorced
My parents have been divorced for 21 years. My mom gets 20% of my dad's retirement. He will literally be paying her until he dies. Meanwhile, he got sick and had to retire early and took a HUGE cut in pay because of it. He is 56 years old and has been retired for 6 years. He would work if he could, he LOVED his job (30 years he worked there). My mom is paid TAX FREE more than what my hard working assistant takes home every month, just for having been married to my dad.
It's bullshit. He struggles financially, and I blame my mother. In fact, he... for the very first time, borrowed money from me this month. I almost cried that he even had to ask. He made a VERY HEALTHY 6 PLUS figure income. Now he is borrowing money from his youngest daughter to get by for the month.
Lifelong support is
Lifelong support is ridiculous. Making someone have to beg for money is really sad. He should be entitled to be able to support himself before he gives money to anyone!
The one recurring theme in
The one recurring theme in most of the post I read here, or on sites like Ottawa divorce Forum is that our justice system needs some serious shaking up. Its 2013, not 1953. The whole paying to keep someone in the lifestyle to which they are accustomed is bullshit. Get off your lazy, Beamer driving Ass and get a F&*king job like the rest of us. I apparently missed the class in high school that taught if you drop a few offspring from your vagina it automatically turns to gold and you will be supported hence forth for the rest of your life. That sense of entitlement passes on to your kids who don't need any help bolstering their narcissism.
You nailed it 3rdParty....the
You nailed it 3rdParty....the sense of entitlement of these skids is learned from their loser BMs. They watch their mothers sit on their ever expanding backsides and collect free money. My kids and I ate hamburger helper 4 nights a week (light on the hamburger, heavy on the helper)back in the day, because God forbid the fat cow ex wife should go get a JOB! And if my man didn't give her that goddamn money, he could get his license suspended and possibly even go to jail. JAIL! I'm glad the skids are grown now and that bullshit is done! It's OUR turn to not struggle now.