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OT- 50th anniversary party for bigot FMIL is Saturday. What gift is appropriate for someone you want to smack?

Yosemite's picture

Submitted by Yosemite on Thu, 06/06/2013 - 12:12pm

My FMIL has recently shown that she is a bigot and a homophobe by making racist/homophobic remarks about my kids (see previous blogs). Her 50th wedding anniversary is Saturday. Since FDH will not attend the party without me and his dad is dying, I have reluctantly agreed to go with him. Problem I have now is what to do for a gift. I would like to spray paint dog shit gold and give her that, but I am thinking that will not go over well, LOL.
I tried to just leave it up to FDH, but there's only 2 days left and he has no clue. I don't really care about a gift for her and FFIL is dying (started in home hospice yesterday). BUT I don't want FDH to feel bad or be judged by his family for not getting anything.
So, I thought I'd pose the question to all you fabulous StepTalkers? What is appropriate for a 50th wedding anniversary when you really don't want to and have no time left to make it personal?

Off topic of this post but funny developments you might want to know are:
1. FDH responded to his mother's nasty remarks about who can be in her family by proposing again which I accepted this time as I now understand how important it is to FDH and his family.
2. FMIL has a granddaughter who is a lesbian, but everyone was too scared to tell her. When this granddaughter found out about what FMIL said about my AD, she brought her girlfriend to meet her grandmother and that was some dramatic karma, let me tell you.
3. One of my FSIL has been dating a black guy for awhile, she hasn't told her mom, but she is bringing him to the party.
So all in all, I think the party may be more entertaining than I originally thought, LOL.

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tryingmom's picture

Submitted by tryingmom on Thu, 06/06/2013 - 12:17pm

Karma and Reincarnation: Unlocking Your 800 Lives to Enlightenment - Barbara Martin

Who knows, she might read it. }:)

myspoonistoobig's picture

Submitted by myspoonistoobig on Thu, 06/06/2013 - 12:18pm

Something cheeky, like a little flip Calender, "365 ways to embrace diversity" or "365 way gay people are awesome."

Would love to see her face. }:)

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Submitted by princessmofo on Thu, 06/06/2013 - 12:28pm

How about a lovely floral arrangement complete with poison ivy or poison oak? It would be the rash, er I mean gift, that keeps on giving. Simply put the ivy in with the legit flowers and nobody will be the wiser. We did this with memorial wreaths that were repeatedly stolen off of my uncle's grave. After we put in the poison ivy, they miraculously stopped disappearing. Hmmm...

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Thu, 06/06/2013 - 12:48pm

Is there something that would only appeal to fil? Just tailor the gift to him and leave mil out of it entirely. Maybe try and find a picture of dh and his dad from when he was a little kid and have it framed?

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Submitted by just.his.wife on Thu, 06/06/2013 - 1:08pm

Please... while you are there... slap a rainbow colored co-exist bumper sticker on her car when she isnt looking.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Thu, 06/06/2013 - 1:28pm

Make two donations in her name and don't tell her about it. One to the NAACP and another to GLAAD.

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Submitted by Starla on Thu, 06/06/2013 - 2:05pm

If you have a decent wedding picture of them, have it printed onto a puzzle and get some some roses too. Haha its just a shitty filler idea cause I hate the whole gift thing.. }:) Especially when you have hard feelings for the person.