I Can't do it anymore
After today I don't want to be involved with anything dealing with BM or the kids for at least a little while. I am tired of crying after every drop off.
DH had an arthritis flare up in his right hand something awful so I drove to drop off after church. The kids got out of the car and BM called DH over. I could see that they were arguing over something. As DH turned to walk away BM made a comment loud enough for me and probably the kids to hear. She said that she is certain my skin and bones can't please DH and I probably am to much of a prick to even give him oral sex. DH ignored her told the kids he loved them and got in the car and I drove home.
I am done trying to understand this woman. She has mistreated me,Told lies about me, Talk down to me, Insulted me, And threatened to file false sexual abuse charges against me. all for what? I do not understand. I pray for her and I am always kind to her. Mabey God is punishing me for a past sin or is testing my faith. I'm not sure.
Right now I feel what is best for me is to continue consulting with my lawyer and to try to find a family friend to help DH get to pick ups and drop offs. I will take up residence with my grandmother when it is time for the kids scheduled visits.I feel this is what is best for now to help me to stay happy.
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(((((WWSMD)))) Your skids
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Your skids BM is one of the worst here, hon.
Would you like me to have Mildred sit on her?
Let Skeeter squat over face without his Depends on after eating beans & franks ? Since she thinks she is such hot shit , she could use some!
loveblinded1 thank you. Your
loveblinded1 thank you. Your comment made me laugh. But no thanks I don't believe in revenge. Her deeds against me will not go unpunished God will handle her. But thank you for your willingness to seek revenge on my behave lol.
Anytime! And it would be
Anytime! And it would be Skeeters pleasure
Don't take up residence with
Don't take up residence with your grandmother please, while the kids visit, unless you are never going back! You are giving BM just what she wants! She wants to destroy her ex's happiness by destroying you ... be strong ... stay in your own house and be strong ... eventually she will lose her battle.
A suggestion, just stay away
A suggestion, just stay away from pickups and drop-offs. That should be enough to make your point, that you don't care what BM has to say. Eventually BM will give up when she realises her taunts are falling on deaf ears. All she wants is a reaction, and by residing at grandmas while the kids visit, jeez you sure are giving her exactly what she wants. Imagine her delight when the kids go home to her and tell her that you stayed at your grandmothers for the entire visit? Don't give her that satisfaction of knowing she pushed you into doing that. Please!!! You also can't do that to your husband, it's not his fault that BM is behaving like trash! You love him don't you? Just let him do the pickups and dropoffs on his own. If he's not capable of picking up/dropping off the kids, then let him figure out his own solution, let that just be his problem, not yours. I think that's all you need to do to make your point. Good luck! Be strong, you can do it!!
wickedstepmum thank you I
wickedstepmum thank you I will attempt to follow your advice. I will however distance myself emotionally and will not be left alone for even a minute with any kid.
Be strong, you can do it.
Be strong, you can do it. The kids will grow up eventually, and pickups and dropoffs will stop then BM will have no hold on you. Just remember, be strong. It's tough, I have been there too. I know you can do it.
Another thing you could do which might help take your mind off things, is take up a hobby which takes you away from home sometimes when the kids visit. Not overnight, but just during the day. If you are out and about doing your own thing too, that will give them some time with their dad. I used to do that and it worked out good for me.
By the time I got home they were all happy to see me because I brought home food!
Be strong ... it takes courage but I know you can do it.
I only hope I can be as
I only hope I can be as strong as you seem to be.
I agree with you Ditzy.
I agree with you Ditzy.
Thank you just wow. I believe
Thank you just wow. I believe you are right and it is time to stop letting her childish comments get to me.
If she makes one more snarky
If she makes one more snarky comment that your head giving or lack of it , I think we should all kidnap her and let Cleetus get her by the ears and hollow her head out!
That Cleetus must be a
That Cleetus must be a ruthless one.
How ya think I got in this
How ya think I got in this neck brace?!
^^^ This. If the kids are old
^^^ This. If the kids are old enough to remember what she said she will never lie it down and even if they don't understand what she said now when they are teenagers and adults they will have lost respect for their mom.
Our BM was pretty psychotic
Our BM was pretty psychotic when I first was in the picture. We had the court order modified to do pickups/dropoffs at a neutral third-party location specifically for things like this.
It really took a LOT of BM's drama out of our lives.