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Willow2010's picture

Submitted by Willow2010 on Tue, 04/23/2013 - 8:32am

Well great. SS is now off of deployment and told DH he will be here sometime in June or July, for a week.

Found out last night (from an inlaw) that SS is actually coming in sooner than that to surprise DH. He did not say when. FML! I can’t say anything because I am not supposed to know. And I don’t want to ruin the surprise for DH. Why can this man make things so difficult!

1) Since it is a surprise, it means that BM will be bringing him. (she lives 2 hours away) So now I get to go home everyday and wonder if SS and BM are going to be in my house waiting on DH. UGH!!! SS should know better than this, but he would still do it. And BM has been trying to get in my house for ages.

2) We do A LOT. Go RVing at least once a month, we also have a side business. We are busy. So now I can’t really make plans because I know that they will get ruined when SS just shows up out of the blue.

I just want to spit. I do not like surprise visits like this, from ANYONE. I like things all planed out and in order. And I am sure DH would like to take some time off to hang with SS but he won’t be able to now because SS is trying to make this a big surprise. UGH.

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Anne Boleyn's picture

Submitted by Anne Boleyn on Tue, 04/23/2013 - 11:44am

If he plans to surprise someone in your home, you need to be in on it. Period.

Willow2010's picture

Submitted by Willow2010 on Tue, 04/23/2013 - 8:58am

Make your plans, fuck them
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I WISH!! I know SS wants to make this a big deal...and that is ok. But come on. And I will be changing the code on our door. DH may not even know if I do that. SS does not have a key, but he does know the code.

Willow2010's picture

Submitted by Willow2010 on Tue, 04/23/2013 - 9:01am

He sure thinks a lot of himself, doesn't he?
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You have no idea! But BM and DH made him this that way.

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Submitted by VioletsareBlue on Tue, 04/23/2013 - 10:04am

Whether you are supposed to know or not doesn't matter, you do know.
Put him on notice. Why does he have a house key? Change the frickin' locks.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Tue, 04/23/2013 - 10:25am

The beans are spilled. Text SS, tell him X told you about his surprise. Let him know your DH doesn't know but you require 48 notice in case DH tries to make plans, so you can keep that block of time open for SS.

Make him believe you're working for him and not against him. And you can keep BM from being in your home.

This is why DH's kid does not have keys to our home. And never will.