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Willow2010's picture

Submitted by Willow2010 on Tue, 12/28/2010 - 3:28pm

Did any of you talk about rules and expectations before getting married to your spouse and moving in with other kids?

For those of you who are thinking about getting married or living with someone that has kids, please talk about certain things first.

Things that were discussed before DH and I married and lived together…

1) We only parent out own kids. All suggestions are welcome but the parenting is left up to the bio.
2) All kids will have chores weekly.
3) All kids will keep the common area free from anything!.
4) You will load your own dishes.
5) TV channel in common area is always the adult’s choice. If the kids want to watch something else…we paid good money for a TV in your room so go watch it.
6) No one goes into anyone else room without permission. (except adults)
7) If you want to live here after high school, you will work part time and go to college full time.
Dirol No people over that we don’t know, if we are not at home.

There are other things that we discussed that I can’t think of right now.

Does anyone else have suggestions for people who are not yet living in a step situation? (Besides run like the wind!)

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purpledaisies's picture

Submitted by purpledaisies on Tue, 12/28/2010 - 3:37pm

Yes we have the same rules you do. We didn't talk about them and it came in time but we got through it.

(don't know what happened but it won't let me edit)

Willow2010's picture

Submitted by Willow2010 on Tue, 12/28/2010 - 3:43pm

Bwaahaahaa.

We did forget to talk about and agree on one certain thing…Girls. Both boys are getting to THAT age. DH thinks it is ok for either of them to bring any random girl to our house while we sleep as long as they leave by midnight and stay in the common area. Oh hell no. I did put my foot down on that one.

I do not want anyone I don’t know, roaming around in my house while I sleep. It could be dangerous. Especially with the type of girls that SS is attracted to!!

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Submitted by Unhappy on Tue, 12/28/2010 - 6:58pm

I couldn't agree more with you A.Diville. The only difference is that we did talk about that grocery thing before I moved in. He suggested it should be an every other grocery store trip he would pay for. Sounds good in theory doesn't it? Not only do I buy groceries for my BD and myself, but also his BD and BS and him. Plus I help pay for bills and the mortgage.