Apparently DH didn't like my idea of disengaging from the whole situation with him and his kids. And I guess all I do is take. I'm a taker. All because I want more or some attention from him. He doesn't like the fact that I refuse to wait my turn for him to show me that I exist and was planning on doing what he does to me and focus my attention else where and not be the filler for when his kids are asleep or not at the house for week. WOW!!! Just amazes me. When you threaten to put the shoe on the other foot all of a sudden it's wrong and I become a selfish taker. Let's see everything that I take.

I do all of the laundry for him and his kids.
I clean the entire house for him and his kids.
I have created a positive insentive program FOR HIS KIDS.
Tried to help creat structure, boundaries, and rules for his kids.
Given up having a life for him and his kids.
Gave him $1700 to pay off his taxes.
Wash all of the bedding in the house.
Make all of the beds.
Clean his kids rooms after his kids leave.
I have put up with his BD being completely out of control.
I didn't leave when she was having bad thoughs about stabbing us while we were naked.
Helped make sure he got his kids Christmas morning this year.
Dealt with his son almost killing my BD, SD, himself, and me in the car.
I make sure that all of the kids have breakfast, get dressed, and make it to school on time.
I sit with his kids and mine and do family Christmas traditions.
I make sure that they have father's day presents for him every year.
I take care of them when he has to go to work on the weekends.
Try and do special things with SD because of her behavioral issues.
Do most of the Christmas shopping for his kids.
Do the grocery shopping.
Help with the kids homework if he hasn't already done it. (I did it all the first year the girls were in school while he sat out in the living room cuddling and playing with SS.)
I buy the kids fun summer toys.
I scrub his son's urine off of the toilet.
I have had to deal with his BD being a bully to mine. Stealing from her, trying to make her feel unwelcomed, and emotionally abusing her.
I have dealt with all of the drama from his ex. Everything from stalking for the first year and DH did nothing about to her calling CPS on him.
I have dealt with him undermining me to the point where SS quit talking to me for six months. It was like I didn't exist.
I spent days coming home from work to tape and paint SD's room for her b-day present last year for hours only to have DH tell me it looks like sh!t.
Bought his BD a bed, princess canopy, LED flowers, new bedding, and spent months trying to find the perfect prints online that I could blow up for the posters on her walls.
Have been there for both SS and SD when they are hurt or sick.
Gone clothes shopping for his BD.
Gone without the new clothes that I need just so the kids could have more.

Oviously this list can go on and on.

As you can plainly see with all of this, I am a taker. That's all I do is take, take, and take. It's all about me. Didn't you know that scrubbing urine off of a toilet is something everyone wants to do. Nope. That job is all mine and I am going to get to it before anybody else does because I am a taker and not a sharer. And how dare I want DH to spend a little bit of quality time with me while SS is there. How selfish of me. I should just know my place and wait quietly on the side lines for my turn because in all actualality I will never come first and should understand that by now. And boy oh boy if I put my foot down and say no more. I will not be waiting on the sidelines anymore. If you can't give me what I want then I'll just develope my own life outside of this then I better watch out. How unfair of me to be so selfish.

I'm sorry DH, but go eff yourself. Good luck finding anybody that will put up with and do what I have done. What I think is funny is he called his ex a taker as well. I think he's going to run into a lot of "TAKERS" throughout his travels. It seems that anybody who doesn't fall in line with what he wants is a taker.