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BM's stbEX H is being verbally and emotionally abusive to SD(7)

Unhappy's picture

SD can be a pain. She can be trying. I can quite honestly say that I have never met a child like her before but I would never say the things that her soon to be Ex SF has said. Before BM even married this guy he flat out told SD that he doesn't want her as a daughter and this was when she was six. Yes I know that SD is not perfect and is a very challenging child but she's a kid. He may have felt that way about her but he didn't need to say it.

I spoke with SD last night because DH told me that BM finally told SD(7) and SS(5) that she is getting a divorce. (DH and I have known for months now.) SD told me that her and her little SS were sitting outside the bedroom door waiting for them to come out. They were fighting really bad and SD said that she heard her SF refer to both her and her little brother as being little Mr. and Miss. perfect kids. (This part is not that bad.) I guess after that SF proceeded to come out and start talking crap about SD to his BD, who I think is only 5, telling her that SD is a little sh!t and a little b!itch right in front of SD. Who does that?!? This man is 31 years old. Why is he picking on a 7 year old. SD only gets away with what she gets away with at their house because of BM not SD. Yes SD can push me to point where I just want to scream, but I don't because she is a child.

DH is going to email BM letting her know what SD has said and that he feels that while they are in the process of getting the divorce worked out or atleast until STB ex moves out that he wants the kids to stay with him so that they don't have to deal with his verbal and emotional abuse.

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Unhappy's picture

I like this approach. The only thing that I would leave out is the, "Is there any way that I can help?" comment. BM stalked DH for the first year of our relationship and has been trying pull he sh!t again for the last couple of months. Not stalking but trying to cause issues between DH and I. That's all a stalker would need to hear. DH would come across as sounding like he cares for her and she would take that and run with it. She accussed DH of leading her on when she was originally stalking him, which he wasn't. I was there and saw every text. She's nuts and we're not going down that crazy path again.

misSTEP's picture

I remember when my friend and her BF/baby daddy broke up. Her older son asked when he could see stbEx again. Ex said to him, "I am not your father and I don't EVER want to see you again!" The older kid had been brought up thinking this guy WAS his dad. Very hurtful and really messed the kid up.

I hate it when adults say crap like that. They have no idea what can stick in a child's head for YEARS.

Unhappy's picture

I agree. It's sad that this guy has singled out SD. I know she's challenging and can be very difficult to deal with. Like I said before, I have never met a child like this one. But come on. She's 7 and he's an adult. There's no need to say that stuff to her.