I'm no longer playing games with BM. For now on, when I have something to say, I'm saying it. When I have a problem with the things she is teaching her daughters...I am going to tell her. I am going to be the one that is going to have to cover the cost of their braces and probably help out with college. I DO have a say! I don't care who disagrees.

She is constantly doing things to cause fights with FH and I and I will NOT let her think she is "part" of our relationship! I don't know if anyone read my last blog but I had to leave for clincals for a couple weeks for school. There is no custody agreement - it's just we pick up fsd's every weekend and then she throws them at us anytime she feels necessary - like when she needs to drink. FH asked her very nicely if she would keep the girls this weekend...because I left today...

She had a different answer for everyday of the week - that I decided to record for entertainment purposes.

Monday: NO! They would rather be with you guys than me. (guilt trip) and then she threw in- my mother will not watch them for me anymore when I go to the bar...
Tuesday: We'll see...I'll call you back. (Of course she never called.)
Wednesday: Just decided she was not going to answer the phone the 5 times my FH called her.
Thursday (New Years Eve): Let's fsd's get on the phone and argue with their dad...tells him "their mommy said he has to come get them! and then BM tells them (loud enough so he could hear her of course) to just "hang up" on their father.
Friday: He gets a text - asking what time we are coming to get them - he calls and fights with her she tells him to pick them up at noon at the house...yada yada yada.

*We know that even if we just simply say, "We will not be getting them this weekend." BM will just call MY fmil and ask her to watch them...she would say yes...and that defeats the whole purpose whenever we live with her for the time being.

So...on Saturday we drive 40 minutes threw a snowstorm to get to their house and low and behold - guess who is NOT home? Ohh yup...BM took the girls to Chuck E Cheese! WTH!

We call her and she has the nerve to say, "I thought you were not getting them this weekend?" OMG! I was furious! I got out of the car and when SD7 said to me, "I thought you weren't coming this weekend?" MAD AT US FOR INTERRUPTING HER PLAYTIME - I say out loud - "Oh? Mommy didn't tell you I guess? She told us we had to pick you up at noon at your house!" BM then stomped through the parking lot to her car...SHE IS CRAZY? Does she really think that someday her children are not going to realize that she is a pathological liar?

So of course...I got to spend NO alone time with FH before I left...This is BS and I can't deal with her running our relationship anymore! I know she is mad because she just got "dumped" but this is not fair to ME! What did I do? They were separated 2 years before I even met him!

So...I ask FH - What are we going to do about this? Where do we draw the line? I don't want to punish the kids...I don't but you know what...I have a life too! When do we as Stepmom's get a break? When do we get to have alone time? I am not suffering anymore because he made two children with someone else! I love the fsd's but their mother has taught them how to be sooo disrespectful that I don't even think I can break them of their bad habits anymore.

FH IS going to do something about this - what is a "fair" custody agreement? We can't have them during the school week when they live 40 minutes away and they are in school. And FH works second shift 6 days a week to pay the 7797978 dollars in child support!

...and to top it all off - she all of a sudden thinks that it is okay to text him constantly now? WTH...enough is enough...