Imagine Being THIS Stepmom. Guess it could always get worse...

Saw this story. Long but interesting:

https://www.buzzfeed.com/michelledean/dee-dee-wanted-her-daughter-to-be-...

$1200 a month plus extras...past the age of 18...and the kid isn't even sick...

But the Karma bus hit this BM hard.

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Oh yeah. I think the girl

Oh yeah. I think the girl definitely got messed up bad by her mom and deserved a lighter sentence. But maybe jail feels less like prison than what she was living before.

I hate to say it, but I think the mom got what she deserved.

How awful!! Sad to think

How awful!! Sad to think someone feels freer in prison. I cannot even begin to imagine what this girl lived with.

Huh? No...one takeaway posted for a site dedicated to stepmoms, where many deal with outrageous CS and extra requests, including bizarre medical requests may be about CS, though. I don't think that's odd or unreasonable to point out...the journalist also points it out. BM was collecting $1200+ well past 18 on the pretense of medical need while also scamming the community. Yeah...that's worth mentioning.

I absolutely feel sorry for the little girl and hope she can recover from this mental abuse. That doesn't preclude me from feeling sorry for the dad, who was also a victim of the BM's scheming and the most extreme PAS I've ever heard about, or the Stepmom, who clearly cares for the girl and got duped as well. They were also emotionally, mentally, and financially abused.

Really? Telling your daughter

Really? Telling your daughter and anyone else who would listen that the dad was an unemployed drunk who never sent any CS and didn't care to be involved in his daughter's life wasn't PAS? OK.

You do realize that mental abuse / mental illnesses can co-exist...and, in fact, often do. So it is possible for this to be an example of both Munchausen and PAS...and in fact probably is. I see nothing fishy. GUBM says that only SHE can fully provide what her daughter needs, milks her ex for all he's worth while poor-mouthing it to everyone else, including their daughter. Moves far away multiple times, claims records were destroyed in Katrina, changes her name multiple times...what is DH supposed to do? If even the doctors and her neighbors who saw them DAILY didn't sense anything amiss and felt that this was a "golden" example of maternal love and devotion...how was the dad supposed to think anything different?

Really? When the BM is a

Really? When the BM is a master manipulator and convinces him that her daughter NEEDS her and only her? How many on here, dealing with this level of crazy..this amount of manipulation and PAS...would encourage their SO to fight for custody? Not many, I think. I've read about many DH's walking away over far less without being blamed for it on this site...but somehow this guy should have done more.

You're kidding, right? He

You're kidding, right? He didn't meet with any of them because he didn't know about them....many of us, including myself, have dealt with BMs who schedule treatments/appointments and never tell dad about them.

She was milking the system, telling everyone that dad was a drunken deadbeat - something else many of us have dealt with.

Exactly. As detailed and

Exactly.

As detailed and in-depth as this article is, it still has to gloss over wide swaths of the story...that's just the nature of journalism. There's no telling what all went on or what the father did or did not do to try to keep in touch with his daughter. You're assuming a lot about the dad (who isn't the focus of the story at all and, so, gets less ink than the BM or the daughter). I think the fact that he continued to send significant child support well after the child's 18th birthday proves that 1.) he cared about her, and 2.) he truly believed she was sick.