So crazy BM finally allowed DH to see his son after 4 mnths of denying access. Dh arranged for his parents to pick SS up from BM and he would see him at their house. We had bought a few little prezzies for SS but I told DH that I didnt want SS to take them back to his mums bcos 1, She would probably throw them away and 2, the crazy witch fleeces us every month in CS so I refuse to give her any extras. I suggested to DH that if SS asked to take them home he could say. 'these toys are for when you come to daddys house so I'll keep them safe for you until you can come and play with them again' DH wholeheartedly agreed.
So the inevitable happens and SS asks to take the toys home. DH tells him they are toys to keep at daddys house as we'd discussed....MIL hits the roof, has a stand up row with DH about how he is so cruel and he should be 'seen' to be buying him presents (seen by whom exactly?). Tops the conversation off by saying I bet this is all HER (meaning me) doing. DH just calmly tried to explain that he gives her more than enough in CS and refuses to give her anything else. All they see is a poor single mum... POOR??!! She has 4 kids by 4 different guys so 4 lots of cs, 4 lots of child benefit, 4 lots of tax credits (british version of welfare) she has her rent and council tax paid by the government bcos shes to lazy to drag her fat backside out of bed and actually get a job! this 'poor' single mum gets her hair done and nails done and fake tan. I work my fingers to the bone pay the debt their son ran up before I met him, I cut my own hair, shop in charity shops and walk around with holes in my shoes because their sons business is going thru a quiet spell and BM screws us every month. But yes MIL i'll give the tiny bit of cash left over to a woman that had me arrested and investigated by social services 'for a laugh'. A woman that already takes more than her fair share of MY money and just this weekend told your grandson that 'Daddy doesnt love you'
How do you get thru to these people?