Its been over a week since I've blogged & lots happened in that time:  wicked infection and tooth extracted (3 rounds of antibiotics and its still infected); had a nice birthday; had an ultrasound for a condition I have (dr called today, no changes - will repeat in 6 mos) and then drama with SD18 still. 

As stated in last blog, she said she was dropping out of school 2 mos prior to graduation.  I read all the comments on that blog and got a lot of perspective - I appreciated all the comments & advice.  Since then, she told us she is not dropping out but is instead going to this alternative school to complete the 3 subjects she needs and will graduate in Aug.  SO googled the school but didn't find too much info on it - he is wary about the whole thing and hopes she isn't lying about it.  Then 3 days ago, he got a call from BM asking him to get SD a pregnancy test because BM refuses to.  He called SD to ask about it and she told him she was going to a clinic instead.  Turns out she is NOT pregnant thank goodness.  But BM says she knows SD is trying to get pregnant.  I don't understand this kid.  No job, boyfriend has no place of his own and we don't know if he actually works.  He is staying with his aunt.  She says they're going to get a place together but to do that, she will be on social services - living off the system just like her mother.  I can't understand why she wants to settle for that.

SO had to pick up prescriptions this morning and take them to her (she had no money) - she was not at her own place, she was at her boyfriends so that led to SO ranting and venting to me on the ride.  Basically his stance is that if she insists on learning the hard way and purposefully has a baby, he's done with her.  I know deep down he doesn't mean that - its his kid and it would be his grandchild.  But he is so pissed at her right now. 

SO and I are getting married at the end of Aug.  I'm also losing my job on July 2nd (company is shutting down) and will get a decent severance.  Between that and any monetary wedding gifts, I want to buy a house.  (I'll be employed by then).  I told SO that no matter what, under no circumstances can she and a baby come live with us, not for a month, a week or a day.  He agrees but I know him - he loves his kids just like we all do.  He and I have a great relationship and I don't want this coming between us.  I might be putting the cart before the horse.....I always over think things.