Ok last blog I said that MIL waited til FDH was at work to call and insist she could pick up the kids. So that went over like a ton of bricks. She showed up on Saturday morning wanting more clothes for the kids because "they were staying with her all weekend." Not a question a statement. FDH was already gone to work so I couldn't ask if he had given permission for this or not (which I later found out he had not) and I was running late to get to work myself so I did not have time to argue that we would be getting them that evening. And like I said before its not needed for her to keep the kids because my job is extremely flexible so I can always take them with me. As I was getting some clothes together she informed me that both of the kids had been coughing their heads off since she picked them up so she  decided to give them 3 different medicens. I had not noticed a cough in the week prior but made a mental not to ask FDH if he had. Then she tells me that SD9 also had a sore neck because my bio son had "made her do push ups" which stopped me in my tracks. I informed her First of all my son can not make her do anything! Secondly i was home when this went down and bio son and SS were doing that big manly thing where they were working out together and playing the I can do this can you game which was including sit ups and push ups and SD couldn't stand that she wasn't getting the attention and insisted that she wanted to play too and CHOSE to participate. And that she didn't need to be repeating that anyone made SD work out with the boys.

That weekend bio son had gone to a friends so on Sunday I had to go pick him up. While I was gone SD called and asked her dad to come pick her up because she was ready to go home. I have not seen her do this before so I thought it was odd but chalked it up to she just wanted to be home. (SD has also now asked not to go back next weekend even if MIL asks for her... Stranger and stranger) MIL gets on the phone and said she is bringing them home now and FDH asked if she wanted him to come pick them up but she said no. Fine, as soon as she gets to my house however she tells FDH that she is going to have to take "her vacuum" back to her house. What she is calling her vacuum however is my vacuum that I bought before FDH and I even lived together that she took off our porch while we were moving into our house without permission and was just keeping until I went over and took it back. So FDH tells her no she isn't because that's this is me's. Her answer is well she has another one anyways. FDH explains that's not a vacuum its a shampooer. To which she answers well I guess Ill have to just get my big one out then....... Because she has one, at her house, that she bought that works fine....... I am however proud of FDH for standing up to his mom and not letting her take things from our house.  

I am really starting to think she has nothing  better to do with her time then to try and stir the pot so to speak. I've decided the Friday night spend the night train is about to get derailed because I'm signing SD up for gymnastics and it will be a Friday class. So hopefully that cuts back on some of the grandma time. Since it will be a paid for scheduled thing that will run late enough to justify not getting them after the class hopefully. I'm kind of lost on what else to do at this point. I cant tell my FDH that he can't have the kids around his mother that would be over stepping for sure. And I'm not breaking up with the man I love because his biggest problem is a crazy mom because plenty of people have that. I need a real honest solution that can work in the every day world that will minimize the effects she is having on the kids while still keeping enough of the peace for us to be able to get on with our lives.