We had a really great weekend with all the kids at home. SD9 was so happy to be able to just be at home and she was really well behaved for the most part. SS8 didnt share her excitement about being home but after he pitched his fit about wanting to go to FMILs he settled into a better mood. (he has unlimited screen time on tv and internet and no restrictions as to what he can watch and look at there. Also its non stop snacking and no real food is required and there is no bedtime.) 

Sunday I had to work and FDH was at home with all the kids. When I got home one of my older kids mentioned in passing that FMIL had been over earlier and was snooping through SDs bedroom while FDH wasn't in the house. So I asked FDH why his mom was over? He said FFIL brought some lumber over that he didnt need and he knew we were putting up a fence for our yard. (Very nice of him) and that FMIL followed him over. FDH also mentioned that in front of FMIL he asked the kids if they wanted to go to church with FMIL. SD said no! Even though FMIL had already told her she had to go. FDH said she doesnt have to go if she doesnt want to. Ok so I let the snooping through SDs room go because nothing looked out of place.

Later I asked FDH to step outside with me because I was really feeling that he needed to know what was going on with his daughter and why she doesn't want to go to FMILs. FDH was less than happy to find out this was the reason his daughter was feeling so uncomfortable suddenly.

Monday FDH and I go and pick up his new work car and I head to work. FDH has the day off and takes care of tag and what not for new car. At some point he stops at in laws and shows his dad the new car which FFIL is very excited for him about. 

FMIL on the other hand is all upset because she didnt get the kids for the weekend and now SD doesnt want to go to church anymore. FMIL tries to tell him the reason SD doesnt want to go anymore is because I told her not to. Apparently this pIsses FDH off because he informs her that SD says the reason she doesnt want to come is because FMIL wont stop pressing her for info about what's going on at our house and about the finances at our house and she is tired of it. FMIL sputtered out something along the lines of how she would NEVER say anything about our finances. FDH calls b.s. and says even he has heard her say things about it and to stop pressing the kids for her information.

SD comes home from school and we ask her if she said anything along the lines of she wasnt going because I didnt want her to, to her grandmother? SD looked shocked and upset that someone would say that was from her. She said no the only person who has said anything about her not going back to grandmothers was FMIL. She told SD that maybe she was getting to old to spend the night anymore because SD doesn't want to sleep on the couch when she has a perfect good bed at home.

Then we go to the grocery store later with the kids and guess who is there..... FMIL. Even DH groaned when he saw her. SD grabbed my arm and wouldn't even talk to FMIL. The only one happy to see her is SS who still wants to go over and have free rain to do whatever he wants. She seemed very embarrassed and wouldnt even speak to me. I just tried to be as plesant as possible without really engaging her.