Well, with all the back and forth with my SD's biomom, and the mess of her life, lifestyle, living arrangements, and what a total mess my SD is, tonight my DH made his position crystal clear that he could care less if he never saw SD again. Life is too short to have gone through all this grief. SD tries to irriate my DH but she will not generate a response from him anymore. He has not only washed his hands of her, but basically marked her off. Like dead. DH says that biomom is a twisted wench, and SD is such a mess, and should know better. But she prefers all the laissez faire values since she basically "ran off" and refused to come back for her regularly scheduled visitation (carefully orchestrated and manipulated by biomom 4 years ago). But you know what that means, like some of the rest of you who are always left holding the bag waiting for the ##@@%%^^&&J**&&%%!!!!!! to happen......The next 11 months will be a nightmare!