So as most of you know my ex h is mentally ill and abusive. He is still extreemly lazy and does nothing with the 3 kids when he has them, only manages to perk up when GF#9 ( this year) is around to put on father of the year act. My step sons pretty much take care of all parenting with my BS7 on his weekends.

Nothing else has come up lately with his threat of mediation of him now not liking his visitation schedule that he agreed to last year, not to mention he lives almost an hour from our house now making it pretty much impossible to do more than EOW any how. Plus he does NOTHING with the kids when he does have them.

So BS 7 got invited to another birthday party ( they keep falling on his dad's weekend ) and he begged me again to tell his dad and see if he would let him go. It is Sunday afternoon. I cringed to do this as I avoid anything that is not outlined in that decree. I did and his response was BS can only go if I give him make up time otherwise no. Well hello, lazy selfish prick. God forbid you have to bathe and leave the house and take your kid to a party for 2 hrs and then spend the time with him afterwards. I am supposed to drive 2 hrs round trip, take him to the party and then make it up to you. Also any make up time would fall into when his brothers are not there so who would actually do anything with BS7 then.

I know it is just a birthday party but everytime you do something for him he just wants more and is ungrateful. I would not have an issue giving him extra time but why so my son can be stuck indoors w/o his brothers and nothing to do just so ex H can have him in his custody.