Feeling bad for loosing my temper
So I am super busy at work, I had to leave 2hrs early for my MS Dr appt today. At 10am I am on a conference call and o get a call from the school. It is bs, he forgot to do a packet of homework so the teacher makes him call me. I had to put my call on mute to answer because I was afraid something happened to him. Not pleased but we discussed when I got home.
We had dinner and I log on to do some work. At about 8pm he comes down crying because he forgot about a book report/ poster they were assigned on Friday. I tell him to find a notebook start writing while I dig out my printer I have not used for almost 2 years.. ink dried up.he continues crying claiming he can't find one.
I yelled at him and made him cry more. I felt awful. He is pretty responsible but twice in one day. I ran up tyo CVS and got new ink. I am big on not bailing you out but I did. He apologized repeatedly for screwing up as did I for loosing my temper. I hate that. I was tired myself and had lots to do...yelled at husband to when he complained we were interrupting his hockey game. Told him go upstairs and watch it.
I told him he needs to really pay more attention and no videogames toll next f riday. He does homework when he gets home but did not bring anything home....
It ended fine, project turned out nice..we actually kind of had a nice time working on it...we had read the book together so we discussed it. I just wish i would have not yelled.
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Sometimes it is good for kids
Sometimes it is good for kids to see that their parents are human and it is definitely good for them to see us apologize when we messed up. It is all part of life and growing up. Don’t fret, you did a good job.
so what you yelled.... he
so what you yelled.... he will think twice of messing up soon again
nothing wrong with it lol, and I never apologized to my kid if I yelled at him, cause then he forgets about what he did wrong...
The teacher makes the kids
The teacher makes the kids call their parents. She is an awesome teacher and I really love her, this is my first call.
Today we talked and I told him where I got upset was I told him to get a notebook and start working on it and he didn't look very hard and stood and cried while I dug out the printer.
He did pull it together and it turned out nice.
I guess where I feel bad is he has a lot of responsibility for being 10 and I think I could have done it without yelling and using the f word.
It is all good. He got it, I will be more investigative in my questions about homework.
Jeez, how old is he? All the
Jeez, how old is he? All the work they send home for the kids really gives me a red rump. Seems like they send home the stuff we used to actually DO in class. And don't worry Sweet, we all have homework meltdowns at some point!
At least they send stuff. My
At least they send stuff. My SD8 has gotten ZERO homework all year... So I help and review whatever I can find in the binder and we read... But it's SUPER hard to help them improve when I don't have much to work off of. I even asked the teacher and got "well they need time to be kids..." At least SD8 is finally caught up in most aspects (I may or may not have pushed summer homework... lol)
I think the schools keep
I think the schools keep swinging back and forth between WAY too much homework for the age and NONE. It's like the schools, at least around here, can't seem to find that happy medium of doing enough work in class to get through most of the potential questions, and enough homework to prove the kids grasped the concept.
There are some other potential issues. A teacher friend of mine said she doesn't want to send home worksheets next year because she's gotten some rather hateful emails and phone calls about offensive material. I've seen some of the worksheets that parents of her students were offended by and there's nothing wrong with them. The offensive material is things like 'too many white kids names on this sheet - where's the color' and 'why is the boy who can't count named Jorge? Why can't he be Joe?' and 'these ghetto names are too difficult to pronounce. Can't you use good old fashioned American names?' Ignorance from parents in all shapes and sizes. I swear if I was a teacher I'd be using a D&D name randomizer for worksheets. "OperaMist SilverJackal has 10 oranges. Yitharh the Hungry has 8 apples. How many pieces of fruit do OperaMist and Yitharh have together?"
Also since a lot is being taught differently than it was when parents were growing up if the teacher is requiring the kids to do the work a specific way parents might be more of a hindrance than a help. Last year for the first semester, SD12 wasn't allowed to get help from us on her homework because neither DH nor I could figure out how to help SD with the method the math teacher was trying to get SD12 to use. At conferences he finally admitted that SD12 was still not understanding his method and let DH teach her an alternative method. She picked up on it right away. (Math teacher was using a method that makes sense to me, but I'm good with straight line logical thinking. SD12 and DH are both very visual/spacial learners. Once DH was able to show SD12 how the math worked with pictures, she caught on. Made no sense to me but it worked for them.)
My mom's a teacher and has
My mom's a teacher and has told me similar stories... The things people choose to get offended for these days are ridiculous... I don't get why it even matters, it's just a homework sheet that's on its way to the trash shortly after they get it back anyways.
The thing that gets me is SD8 will get letters home "she's struggling in this subject." And I'm just sitting there like: "Well I'd love to help her... But you didn't and won't give me material to actually help her with what you're learning..." Only one I've been able to help with has been reading, because all I have to do is throw books at her and read with her. lol (and shocker she's improved... She got behind when DH was in the military because BM wouldn't even take care of the Skids, let alone help with homework... *eye roll* But she's actually ahead now!
"The offensive material is
"The offensive material is things like 'too many white kids names on this sheet - where's the color' and 'why is the boy who can't count named Jorge? Why can't he be Joe?' and 'these ghetto names are too difficult to pronounce. Can't you use good old fashioned American names?' Ignorance from parents in all shapes and sizes."
There's nothing ignorant about wanting your children to be in a culturally responsive classroom.
As I read this, I wonder what images are displayed in the classroom and around the school building. Do the students see authority figures (teachers, administrators...) that look like them throughout the school.
If the answer to any of those questions are no, then as a black parent and teacher, I can understand why those parents complained.
The parents complaining about "ghetto names are just jackasses.
True - but the classroom
True - but the classroom images could be incredibly diverse and some stupid idiot (who probably never goes to conferences and has never set foot in the classroom) would still bitch that all the kids are white on the worksheet.
It's just one worksheet, right, and not a application for the KKK. As I am sure you know, some parents will complain with absolutely no reason.
And, yes, the "ghetto name" parents are jackasses.
She in particular is a white
She in particular is a white teacher at an inner city school. I don’t know the make up of her school or students. She tries very hard to choose worksheets that are inclusive, but no matter what she does someone is upset. I agree that representation is important, and I do think parents have the right to question homework and worksheet choices. But to complain about a single worksheet with predominantly “white” names out of a month of worksheets with diverse names is ignorant in my opinion. The comment about Jorge vs Joe was ingnorant in my opinion, because ALL of the names on that worksheet were Hispanic/Latino. I just didn’t include all the details in my original response because it was kind of long to begin with.
Since you are a teacher and have better knowledge on this particular subject, if you know of a resource for 2nd/3rd grade math worksheets with culturally diverse names, I’d be happy to pass it on to her. She’s always on the lookout for something new, though from my understanding she tends to look at new materials mainly during summer months. She tends to pull from TPT a lot - many of her Pinterest links go there.
Are teachers not allowed to
Are teachers not allowed to write their own material?
Or they could do as my mother did, who was a teacher, she used to take questions from a number of different sources and then create a worksheet by cutting them up and sticking the questions she wanted onto a new piece of paper then copying that for the kids.
I use TPT quite a bit . I
I use TPT quite a bit . I tend to go with the editable items. When I create worksheets, I plug in the names of my students and staff members. The kids love it (I teach 1st grade ICT this year).
Same. I love TpT stuff, I
Same. I love TpT stuff, I print it (if it’s not editable) and white out some things and put my own stuff. I usually do it to just to be funny and make kids laugh, I teach high school and they don’t care if it’s Jose or Jorge but they laugh if I put my or my other colleagues’ names.
You sound like an amazing
You sound like an amazing stepmom and we all screw up, but he learned a lesson and knows you love him.
Thanks frustrated. This is
Thanks frustrated. This is my bio son. I was a sm for 10 years officially but when I divorced my ex my 2 stepsons decided I was still their step mom which is heartwarming because I love them and they are my bios brothers.
You are a fantastic mom. And
You are a fantastic mom. And human. Sometimes we lose it.
If that’s the worst that happens, you will be ok
I had a parent once sending
I had a parent once sending me nasty emails that I reprimanded her son only because he is black (he cheated on
the test twice and second time was referred to detention for that). I asked her to come meet me. When she discovered that at least 50% of my students are African Americans and there is nothing racist about me whatsoever, She became my best friend and at his graduation walked her all extended family to greet me because I taught him life lessons.
Sometimes I think these parents are defensive and angry because they don’t know you and assume you are out to get them (because they have bad school experiences themselves). If I get nasty gram I ask them to come meet me in person. They never write a nasty gram again lol