This just stinks...
Okay so me and DH have been struggling, due to the kids, MIL, and finances. After several months of just feeling empty inside and trying to think about what is right, what is wrong,, me and my BD's left the home for a few days...
The story,,My H's birthday was Friday,, I planned a limo ride with several of our friends, dinner etc. When I called H's brother to invite him and his wife along, he informed me that MIL was VERY upset because I had not called her to plan a family dinner for H's birthday and BIL suggested I plan it. I told him since I had been in the family she had planned them and our (my and H) was to see that the children had party's not us..BIL said well she found out about the big party you had for him last year and was really upset.. OMG...i hired a stripper and I guess I was to invite my in-laws over. GET REAL... Needless to say, I never planned the birthday dinner. Thanksgiving and Christmas is coming up!!! AND he is 41 and if she wanted to have a get together she should of planned it...And besides none of the other family has called me this year saying we are having a birthday dinner for his brothers/sisters.
So anyway we go on our adventure Friday night.. One of H's friends upset him,,,H makes the statement in the limo when referring to his friend that its enough that he has to live with me at night and work with his "friend" at day. "It was just to much for him" I felt my heart break,, I so wanted to get out of the car,, but I didnt have my walking shoes on,,SO all weekend I studied those words,, on top of everything else thats been going on in our world....And I asked for a separation,, He agreed it was best....
Now we have 8 pieces of rental property, one new one and is only lacking carpet,, his parents live 2 miles down the road,, and guess who left the house she pays on "ME". Not to mention the 250.00 in groceries I bought sunday,, Yeah so me, my two BD's leave, go to my parents 20 mintues away and leave him and his daughter..
Then SD calls my daughter this morning and leaves a voice mail that says,, "Tell SM(me) that Dad said to turn my texting on" That has ticked me off...That is an adult conversation and should not be handled between the kids!!
SOrry i needed to vent,,,Im at the end of my rope here..
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You are going through a real
You are going through a real trial here. I wish I had good advice but at least I can offer you a hug and some encouragement.
Tell him that you changed
Tell him that you changed your mind. He and his kds need to leave, so that you and your kds can move back in, if he expects you to keep on making those payments.
Right on Patty! I wouldn't
Right on Patty! I wouldn't have the text messaging turned back on for anything in the world. Especially if the phone bill is in your name, if it isn't, then tell him to take care of it himself, that you aren't responsible for it.
Oh his kids and Granny are probably loving this, they will be in his ear the entire time, making sure you don't get your foot back in the door. You seem like a really nice person, so you deserve better than this. You went out of your way to plan something nice for DH bday and the best he can give you is a snide comment about "putting up with you" yeah like putting up with him, granny from hell, and spoiled brats has been a walk in the park. I get so steamed when I read posts like this, Cruella will probably loan you her frying pan.
On a more serious note, take this time to search your heart, and think about whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life dealing with these people. Hugs and Good Luck, keep us posted!
**How seldom we weigh our neighbors in the same balance as ourselves. ~Thomas à Kempis**
I'm so sorry....
for what you're going through.
Sometimes when you leave, you need to actually cut off all communication. This includes relaying messages through skids. Just let him know you need real time apart to figure things out. We all need to collect our thought and ample time to just calm down.
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."